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greenemama · 03-22-2005, 07:42 AM

bear with me here....

i get that the comfort corner works well when kids are melting -- freaking out about stuff and just need to regroup. what about "smallies" like refusal to stop a behavior, or refusal to comply. i do "help" and offer help a lot, but there are things that i cannot help him do.

my ever-present example: screaming. screaming for no reason other than to scream. screaming when there is no way to go outside and use the outside voice. screaming for fun.

does the cuddle corner serve as a place to go to stop yourself from screaming? not punitively, i'm willing to go there with him, i'm willing to give him things to read, listen to, play with. but there are times i think he's taking the cuddle corner negatively, he doesn't want to stay there, he doesn't want to "rest" as i call it. he wants to scream and just be mad about it. tantrum, if you will.

i guess what i'm asking is, does the comfort corner take the place of the time-out chair? exhaustively. for every instance one would use the naughty chair (a la nanny jo) can/should one use the comfort corner?

03-22-2005, 07:42 AM	#21
greenemama Deactivated Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 4,206	Re: help me with my comfort corner bear with me here.... i get that the comfort corner works well when kids are melting -- freaking out about stuff and just need to regroup. what about "smallies" like refusal to stop a behavior, or refusal to comply. i do "help" and offer help a lot, but there are things that i cannot help him do. my ever-present example: screaming. screaming for no reason other than to scream. screaming when there is no way to go outside and use the outside voice. screaming for fun. does the cuddle corner serve as a place to go to stop yourself from screaming? not punitively, i'm willing to go there with him, i'm willing to give him things to read, listen to, play with. but there are times i think he's taking the cuddle corner negatively, he doesn't want to stay there, he doesn't want to "rest" as i call it. he wants to scream and just be mad about it. tantrum, if you will. i guess what i'm asking is, does the comfort corner take the place of the time-out chair? exhaustively. for every instance one would use the naughty chair (a la nanny jo) can/should one use the comfort corner?

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