Playful parenting for the win

rjy9343 · 11-02-2014, 02:28 PM

I decided it was a great idea to take two tired and hungry children shopping to fill up shoeboxes for Operation Christmas Child. Ivy held up really well, but my nephew started to lose it at the end. He kept trying to get Lego sets that were war related or just violent. Each time I told him no and he started sighing and rolling his eyes at me.
I started to get irritated with him for getting an attitude over this in no small part because we already discussed this. (That I was hungry just amplified this). I was ready to lay down the law and force the issue, when out of nowhere I suddenly had a better idea. I told him I still feel like he respects me. If he wants to convey his anger and disgust he needs to sigh from the depths of his soul, go limp so everyone can see how horrible I am and put some umph into rolling his eyes or there was just no point to it. He looked startled, so I demonstrated and as Ivy cracked up and egged us both on.
My nephew did a few eye rolls and deep sighs and then laughed. I asked him if he could hear me and he said he could. I reminded him of the rules that came with the shoe boxes and told him I understood why he was so disappointed, but this was what we had to do if we wanted to give kids Christmas presents with this group.
We left the Lego section and went to the Hot Wheels section without any more drama. Some boy is going to be set for toy cars for some time as he decided that there should be enough to share or even give away to a friend.

charla · 11-02-2014, 03:35 PM

houseforjoy · 11-02-2014, 03:39 PM

sunflowermom · 11-02-2014, 08:48 PM

homesteadmama · 11-03-2014, 07:05 AM

That's awesome!

Tasmanian Saint · 11-04-2014, 01:52 AM

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Saoirse · 11-04-2014, 05:28 AM

I like to do that to my kids too. If you're gonna be all eye-rolly and attitudey, you better put some real effort and zeal into it or it's just not worth it.

rjy9343 · 11-04-2014, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Saoirse

I like to do that to my kids too. If you're gonna be all eye-rolly and attitudey, you better put some real effort and zeal into it or it's just not worth it.

Exactly. Since I am the only one in the family that is not going to smack you for it, get your money's worth.

Stefanierose88 · 11-05-2014, 11:15 AM

11-02-2014, 02:28 PM	#1
rjy9343 Rose Garden Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 10,090	Playful parenting for the win I decided it was a great idea to take two tired and hungry children shopping to fill up shoeboxes for Operation Christmas Child. Ivy held up really well, but my nephew started to lose it at the end. He kept trying to get Lego sets that were war related or just violent. Each time I told him no and he started sighing and rolling his eyes at me. I started to get irritated with him for getting an attitude over this in no small part because we already discussed this. (That I was hungry just amplified this). I was ready to lay down the law and force the issue, when out of nowhere I suddenly had a better idea. I told him I still feel like he respects me. If he wants to convey his anger and disgust he needs to sigh from the depths of his soul, go limp so everyone can see how horrible I am and put some umph into rolling his eyes or there was just no point to it. He looked startled, so I demonstrated and as Ivy cracked up and egged us both on. My nephew did a few eye rolls and deep sighs and then laughed. I asked him if he could hear me and he said he could. I reminded him of the rules that came with the shoe boxes and told him I understood why he was so disappointed, but this was what we had to do if we wanted to give kids Christmas presents with this group. We left the Lego section and went to the Hot Wheels section without any more drama. Some boy is going to be set for toy cars for some time as he decided that there should be enough to share or even give away to a friend. __________________ Rita s IstJ Wife to my brilliant geek James iNtJ since 4/08 Mom to our angel boy Jay 5/08 our quirky miracle DD Ivy 6/10 mellow miracle DS Jacob 7/15 Often Please forgive my frequent typos Standing firmly on Team Lioness!!! Roar!!! I am ready for people to know I am a GCM find me on Facebook

11-02-2014, 03:35 PM	#2
charla Administrator Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 16,661	Re: Playful parenting for the win __________________ CHARLA Married to Nick, 31 yrs Mom to Nathan and his wife Abby, and Hope Elizabeth, dancing for eternity with babies: Micah Noel, Grace Anna, Andrew David www.dancingforeternity.org www.irresistiblehope.org Save Save Save Save Save

11-02-2014, 03:39 PM	#3
houseforjoy Rose Garden trying to live like olaf "this is the best day of my life!... and quite possibly the last!" Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: in the sunshine with my own personal flurry Posts: 9,563	Re: Playful parenting for the win __________________ Amanda, ENFJ Mommy to my bounty: ds 13 years, dd 12 years, dd 9 years , dd 6 and ds 4 Psalm 13 How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?How long will you hide your face from me? 2 How long must I take counsel in my soul and have sorrow in my heart all the day?....because I am shaken. 5 But I have trusted in your steadfast love; my heart shall rejoice in your salvation. 6 I will sing to the Lord, because he has dealt bountifully with me.

11-02-2014, 08:48 PM	#4
sunflowermom Rose Garden Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: Oregon Posts: 3,579	Re: Playful parenting for the win __________________ Mae Married my DH in 2/2008 Gave birth my DS 3/2012

11-03-2014, 07:05 AM	#5
homesteadmama Rose Trellis Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 2,959	Re: Playful parenting for the win That's awesome! __________________ Sarah, INFJ Wife to M since 1/04 Mommy to S (1/07), W (1/09), S (1/11)~My UC baby, and A (12/14), Another UC baby , Baby-Wearing, , Cloth Diapering, , Traditional Foods Family My blog

11-04-2014, 01:52 AM	#6
Tasmanian Saint Rose Trellis Go Team Lioness! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: This side of the black stump Posts: 2,428	Re: Playful parenting for the win Sent from my GT-S5300 using Tapatalk 2 __________________ Our blossoms: DS "Little Bear" Apr '07 - The negotiator DD "Miss Muffett" Nov '08 "Don't tell Daddy..." DS "Mouse" Jan '12 "I Soup Baby, Man of steel! " Myth Busting over at Dare to Disciple "Believe in yourself. Trust your instincts. Unless your instincts are terrible." Vitruvius, The LEGO Movie.

11-04-2014, 05:28 AM	#7
Saoirse Rose Garden Coming out into the Light! Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 5,307	Re: Playful parenting for the win I like to do that to my kids too. If you're gonna be all eye-rolly and attitudey, you better put some real effort and zeal into it or it's just not worth it. __________________ Pam - MOM to three amazing kids!!! "A victim lives in fear. A Survivor endures. A victim is weak and powerless, paying for what was not her doing. A Survivor has grown strong because she knows the price is not hers to pay, the sin is not hers to atone." - unknown Alis volat propriis SingleFabulousMamas unite!

11-05-2014, 11:15 AM	#9
Stefanierose88 Rose Blossom Faith, Torah, Family Join Date: May 2014 Location: NJ, USA Posts: 171	Re: Playful parenting for the win __________________ Me: 27, DH: 44 Noemi- 5yr Liora- 3yr Zipporah- 20 months BABY BOY- due oct2016

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