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11-12-2014, 11:57 AM | #1 |
Rose Bouquet
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consequence help!!!
Ds1 who is 5 just hit the teenage babysitter who was watching him in the face because he didnt want to get a coat on. He is calmly sitting on his bed. He does feel bad about it. I feel he needs a consequence but am not sure what. I am leaning toward making him stay in his room quietly the rest of the time she is here since that is what he would need to be doing if she wasnt here. I work from home and she watches him so I can do that.
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11-12-2014, 12:06 PM | #2 |
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Re: consequence help!!!
G did this a few months ago. He had to play quietly in his room while my helper played with Z and then he apologized when she left.
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11-12-2014, 12:10 PM | #3 |
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Re: consequence help!!!
I think that sounds like a fair and just boundary. Allow him to come up with an appropiate way to make amends and discuss a plan and a back up plan to what he could do instead if his anger boils up again. Make sure those solutions are understood by the sitter and implemented not as punishments but ways to help him..
Like if he says when I get angry I can go sit on the big chair over their with a blanket till I feel like talking It shouldn't become Hey kid knock it off or you'll have to go sit by your self! Does he have a comfort corner or room space to escape to?
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11-13-2014, 02:23 AM | #4 |
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Re: consequence help!!!
Perhaps your little fellow could also say, do or give something nice to the babysitter: a flower, a drawing, a nice card, a beautiful stone or shell or something else that can be found outside in the nature. Something like that. Perhaps he has a good idea himself, because he feels bad about what happened. If he can do something to make the babysitter feel better, he will also feel better.
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11-13-2014, 05:00 AM | #5 |
Rose Bouquet
Remember, you are not managing an inconvenience; You are raising a human being ~ Kittie Frantz
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Re: consequence help!!!
Thank you ladies. He stayed on his bed (doesn't have his own room) for the rest of the time the babysitter was here. I explained that he needed to stay in his bed to make sure our babysitter stayed safe and that he could try again tomorrow. He did apologize to her and when he came out he told her that he would keep her safe . We did talk about what he could have done differently.
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