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Old 06-16-2017, 10:54 PM   #1
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Unhappy Don't engage on Facebook. Don't engage on Facebook. Don't engage on Facebook.

I'm sitting on my hands. I desperately want to reply with ezzo.info but I don't engage on Facebook.
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Old 06-16-2017, 11:21 PM   #2
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Sounds so frustrating! Can you unfollow or block temporarily?
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I have trouble with that, too. On the one hand, you might convince someone who is on the fence (probably not the poster, but someone reading). On the other hand, those things get so ugly so fast! I'd be tempted just to post ezzo.info, then unfollow the post. But I really do hate facebook fights and I regret entering them when I do.
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The only thing I address on FB is poor car seat use (I cannot keep quiet!), but I do it through private messaging.


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A new mom friend asked about Babywise, so I dropped the link and then unfollowed the conversation. It was too hard to not engage further!! Argh.

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Old 06-17-2017, 10:01 AM   #6
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Default Re: Don't engage on Facebook. Don't engage on Facebook. Don't engage on Facebook.

It was just a meme and the meme itself wasn't bad ... But it was from the ezzo's new book or site or whatever they have, I don't even know, Beyond Babywise or something. I just want her to know not to be fooled by them. I'm not close with her and it's not a conversation I want to have online.

Maybe in a few weeks I'll post ezzo.info on my page.
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I had a really hard time with this recently. On a local yardsale group, someone posted a stack of fostering/adoption books they wanted to give away. There were several great books on attachment, trauma, etc.... and SACH. Probably the only thing that kept me from saying something was that a friend of mine runs the group.
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I had a really hard time with this recently. On a local yardsale group, someone posted a stack of fostering/adoption books they wanted to give away. There were several great books on attachment, trauma, etc.... and SACH. Probably the only thing that kept me from saying something was that a friend of mine runs the group.
I always grab up copies of SACH, Ezzo, Dr. Denmark, etc. in situations like that. Then I dispose of them properly.

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I thought about it but it was in the middle of our health issues back in March and there was just no time/energy.
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I do that, too. I don't see much of the super toxic stuff like SACH here (it's just not as popular) but I do see Ezzo and I also will buy it and dispose of it properly.
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Oooh, it's barbecue season. I should get rid of the Teenwise I picked up that way.
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Old 06-18-2017, 11:38 AM   #13
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Who is Dr. Denmark?
She was a pediatrician who lived to be 114 years old. (I think she actively practiced until she was 90 or so?) She did do a lot of cool things and was a HUGE proponent of listening to the mother. But, a lot of her advice reflects the advice of the times she lived in. She was a hyper scheduler and a lot of people follow her advice to the letter and it's horrifying.



She was local to my city, so I see her books come up every so often and I always grab them, even if I have to pay a couple of dollars (at Goodwill/consignment).
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Thanks! This was clarifying.
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Wow, that linked blog post was awful to read through.
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