Sibling relationship - Page 2

arelyn · 01-05-2015, 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by rjy9343

I guess I have this idea that time for Ivy has to be away from the baby so that the time is all hers, but it sounds like that is not true. That is much more reassuring than how am I going to have baby free time for Ivy.

Some of the best quality times can be done with baby right there. I got through a couple bouts of mastitis by sitting in bed, nursing DS2 and pretending my bed was the magic school bus. DS1 and I went on all sorts of adventures but I had to stay in the "driver's seat" so the bus couldn't get away.

We also did a lot of fun messy things during naps like science experiments and painting. And we'd take walks around town with DS2 sleeping in a carrier. Then DS1 could ride his strider and get all the pent up energy out and we would stop at the library which was always super special for DS1 even though we went multiple times a week.

Sparrow · 01-05-2015, 12:35 PM

You have lots of great advice for the transition part of things. As far as the hate thing goes......

I spent a ton of time "hating my brother" right up til my teens. So we thing happened when we got older. We sort of just clicked. Now he isn't best friend and I was his honour attendant. I think that when we are kids an we spend intense amounts of time with each other there can be resentment. My boys go from telling each other they are the worst to "you're my best brother"

HuggaBuggaMommy · 01-05-2015, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by rjy9343

I guess I have this idea that time for Ivy has to be away from the baby so that the time is all hers, but it sounds like that is not true. That is much more reassuring than how am I going to have baby free time for Ivy.

Yeah.

I actually found it was easier with a tiny baby to have time with dd - ds2 just came along for the ride (in the Beco, particularly), and it was easy to read or color or play a game with dd while ds2 nursed.

It's more difficult now that ds2 is older and wants to do everything dd does. We have special dd/mommy time most days, when ds2 naps. Not usually the whole nap - even just 20-30 minutes helps; then dd either has quiet rest time and I get some computer work done, or she helps me with any chores I couldn't get finished while ds2 was awake.

And

I totally missed your announcement.

rjy9343 · 01-05-2015, 03:53 PM

I guess it's because Ivy was the champion of twenty minute cat naps on me that I don't really think about nap time. Or maybe that is why I am not sure how I am going to carve out time for Ivy, if the baby does not nap, then what.

OatsandBran11 · 01-05-2015, 07:29 PM

I love this thread. My dd was an extremely difficult baby and I have the same fears as op about adding another.

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01-05-2015, 12:35 PM	#17
Sparrow Rose Garden Immerse your soul in love. Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Victoria, BC Posts: 17,609	Re: Sibling relationship You have lots of great advice for the transition part of things. As far as the hate thing goes...... I spent a ton of time "hating my brother" right up til my teens. So we thing happened when we got older. We sort of just clicked. Now he isn't best friend and I was his honour attendant. I think that when we are kids an we spend intense amounts of time with each other there can be resentment. My boys go from telling each other they are the worst to "you're my best brother" __________________ Manda Mama to: Bear 16.75 Funny and Tender. Larger than life. ENFP Max 14 Affectionate and Spirited. Artist Chickadee 8! She's Sunshine and Song. Born in the caul We have a fur baby. A cat called Charlie

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rjy9343 Rose Garden Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 10,090	Re: Sibling relationship I guess it's because Ivy was the champion of twenty minute cat naps on me that I don't really think about nap time. Or maybe that is why I am not sure how I am going to carve out time for Ivy, if the baby does not nap, then what. __________________ Rita s IstJ Wife to my brilliant geek James iNtJ since 4/08 Mom to our angel boy Jay 5/08 our quirky miracle DD Ivy 6/10 mellow miracle DS Jacob 7/15 Often Please forgive my frequent typos Standing firmly on Team Lioness!!! Roar!!! I am ready for people to know I am a GCM find me on Facebook

01-05-2015, 07:29 PM	#20
OatsandBran11 Rosebud Join Date: May 2014 Posts: 120	Re: Sibling relationship I love this thread. My dd was an extremely difficult baby and I have the same fears as op about adding another. Sent from my PC36100 using Tapatalk 2 __________________ Wife for 5 years Mama to DD - age 2

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