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07-16-2014, 05:58 PM | #1 |
Rose Garden
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Why we do what we do
Last week a small miracle occurred in my family. My oldest son, went away to camp for 5 days, and successfully navigated the social situations all week long on his own. This might not sound like such a huge deal for a child who is newly 10, indeed he wasn't the youngest child there and when I was his age I went to the same place with no issues. But when Warrior was 3 he was diagnosed with autism, and since then it has been a daily struggle working with him, constantly; teaching him, instructing him, knowing when to lay the boundary and how to talk him through the situation, giving him the tools over and over and over again, and at times despairing that he will ever actually use them on his own. We've had him in so many therapies and even tried meds at one point-something he had a horrible reaction to .
That's why last week is such a big huge deal. Because I sent him lovingly on his way, gave him the tools he needed, kissed his cheek and told him I had every last bit of confidence in him that he would succeed and I hoped he had a great week. And he went nervously on his way. And all week long I waited for that phone call to come asking me to come calm him down, and maybe even pick him up. But it never did, because he was successful! He used the tools available to him, and at the end of the week each of the people who had worked with him told me what an awesome kid he is (I totally knew that, but WOW what a confidence booster for him!!!!!!) and glad they were he was there. He did come home one night early; we saw him at church that day and he told me he'd had a totally awesome time but he was really ready to just come home now-another one of the self-advocacy tools we've talked to him about . Believe me, I know how hard the struggle is at times. How wearying it is to use GBD at times, and that question in the back of your head, "Is it really working? Is it really worth it?" But if we remember our goal is NOT a child that is obedient, rather it is a child who is self-controlled, self-motivated, and confident in the ability to navigate their lives-then yes it's definitely worth it!!!! And yes-it's definitely "working", even when it doesn't seem to be.
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07-16-2014, 06:02 PM | #2 |
Rose Garden
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Re: Why we do what we do
I'm so proud of him and happy for you!
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07-16-2014, 06:38 PM | #3 |
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Re: Why we do what we do
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07-16-2014, 06:55 PM | #4 |
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Re: Why we do what we do
I needed this today. Thank you for the hope.
And WTG for your lil man =)
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07-16-2014, 08:32 PM | #5 |
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Re: Why we do what we do
This is wonderful!
Thank you for sharing your son's success,it's a great reminder. |
07-16-2014, 08:39 PM | #6 |
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Re: Why we do what we do
That's awesome! Thanks for sharing!
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07-16-2014, 09:14 PM | #7 |
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Re: Why we do what we do
I am for you! And for him! how awesome! Truly proud moment on the journey and thank you so much for encouraging and sharing with us
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07-16-2014, 09:31 PM | #8 |
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Re: Why we do what we do
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07-16-2014, 11:19 PM | #9 |
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07-24-2014, 06:02 AM | #10 |
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Re: Why we do what we do
That is so wonderful! Congratulations to him and you!
I really needed this today. The punitive pressure from family has been heavy for the last couple months. Thank you for inspiring and reminding me of why GBD is the right path. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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