Whining - make it stop!

LovelyGourmet · 08-27-2014, 02:14 PM

C whines about every thing we do all day long - doing chores before playing with friends/screen time, doing school (we haven't started this year yet but I'm dreading it), quiet time, no dessert until after lunch and eating healthy foods, any other rule we have, bed time, etc., etc. etc.

I can't stand it anymore!

What do I do? Can there be a consequence for complaining? These are things that happen every day and it would just be nice to get through the day without crying about all the things.

milkmommy · 08-27-2014, 04:15 PM

winning is done in their rooms. Period I have no patience for it. Use words ask for changes and we might negotiate something but as for flat out complaining nope do it to the wall...

Beth1231 · 08-27-2014, 04:37 PM

Does he watch Calliou?

Nix it.
When A is on a whining kick,I've done all sorts of things. Modify my voice to be deeper,squeaky,goofy,whisper,etc. A little of this goes a long way. Sometimes I start singing things to her until she starts to sing back.
I script polite tone of voice.
Sometimes I briefly point out the obvious "you are whining and it's hurting my ears."
A change of scenery or activity helps. "Okaaaay,people are feeling grumpy,let's get some fresh air and look for bugs!"
Just a few that pop to mind.
Sometimes my kid is whining because she has heard me whining about cleaning or the car repairs

Then I fess up and try to model how I hope she will handle things.

08-27-2014, 02:14 PM	#1
LovelyGourmet Rose Bouquet Keep it together, keep it together... Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Idaho Posts: 853	Whining - make it stop! C whines about every thing we do all day long - doing chores before playing with friends/screen time, doing school (we haven't started this year yet but I'm dreading it), quiet time, no dessert until after lunch and eating healthy foods, any other rule we have, bed time, etc., etc. etc. I can't stand it anymore! What do I do? Can there be a consequence for complaining? These are things that happen every day and it would just be nice to get through the day without crying about all the things. __________________ Tosha INFP (Please forgive my Eeyore-ness) Married to my soul mate - INFJ 8/06 Mommy to C - - 3/08 K - - 10/10 L - - 9/12 D - - 10/14 A - - 03/17 “When you are a Bear of Very Little Brain, and you Think of Things, you find sometimes that a Thing which seemed very Thingish inside you is quite different when it gets out into the open and has other people looking at it.”

08-27-2014, 04:15 PM	#2
milkmommy Rose Garden sisters! Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Sunniest place on Earth and hotter than Phoenix! Might as well be sitting on the sun... Posts: 35,300	Re: Whining - make it stop! winning is done in their rooms. Period I have no patience for it. Use words ask for changes and we might negotiate something but as for flat out complaining nope do it to the wall... __________________ Deanna wife to Shawn since 2001 mom to a young adult Cecilia , tween Margaret and three I will hold one day in heaven.

08-27-2014, 04:37 PM	#3
Beth1231 Deactivated Join Date: May 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 14,962	Re: Whining - make it stop! Does he watch Calliou? Nix it. When A is on a whining kick,I've done all sorts of things. Modify my voice to be deeper,squeaky,goofy,whisper,etc. A little of this goes a long way. Sometimes I start singing things to her until she starts to sing back. I script polite tone of voice. Sometimes I briefly point out the obvious "you are whining and it's hurting my ears." A change of scenery or activity helps. "Okaaaay,people are feeling grumpy,let's get some fresh air and look for bugs!" Just a few that pop to mind. Sometimes my kid is whining because she has heard me whining about cleaning or the car repairs Then I fess up and try to model how I hope she will handle things.

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