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08-09-2014, 09:22 AM | #1 |
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Another question... Peeing on the floor.
My 3 yo has been potty trained for over a year... Right before I had the baby he started having accidents that turned out not be accidents. Now, he is peeing on the floor at least twice a day on purpose. For a time he was deliberately peeing all over his brothers and his beds and pillows. I have him clean it up and remind him pee goes in the potty. If I catch him I make him go into the bathroom but he will keep going until I get to him.
Today I told him nicely, Abd did my best not to shame him, that pee goes in the potty. That it seems he doesn't want to use the potty. I can't let him keep peeing on the floor and that if it happened again he was showing me he wanted to be back in a diaper. He said "I can't wear diapers" and I said he didn't need to because he can go in the potty, that peeing on the floor would show me he needed his diapers back. Do you think I handled it ok? I am so tired of wet spots and finding pee everywhere! I realize this is an attention thing. I am doing my best to give him quality time and connection. |
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08-09-2014, 04:05 PM | #2 |
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Re: Another question... Peeing on the floor.
Yeah, I would do the same thing. I might have him checked out by the ped jic if he is motivated to not wear diapers and still does it, but it sounds like it's not medical. Also try setting a timer and telling him to go every hour.
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08-17-2014, 12:12 PM | #3 |
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Re: Another question... Peeing on the floor.
This. Especially the timer.
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08-17-2014, 06:48 PM | #4 |
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Re: Another question... Peeing on the floor.
Well, we bought him pull ups. I again told him peeing on the floor showed me he wasn't ready for underwear. He peed on the floor, I calmly validated his feelings as he flipped out while I put on the pull up. Took me 5 minutes. After he calmed I hugged him and we moved on. I left the room. Five minutes later he came out in underwear and said "I don't need a pull up I can't wear it." And hasn't peed on the floor since. It wasn't intended as a punishment, I tried to make sure I didn't approach it that way. I hope I did the right thing! It stopped happening though so I'm relieved!
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08-24-2014, 06:25 AM | #5 |
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Re: Another question... Peeing on the floor.
Sounds like you are doing well. Sooo frustrating to deal with that.
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Re: Another question... Peeing on the floor.
Is he 3 or 3.5? I ask because there are some things that happen at 3.5 developmentally that might be in play.
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08-24-2014, 07:35 PM | #7 |
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Re: Another question... Peeing on the floor.
What else is going on? New baby is huge, but are there other stressors, too?
This isn't a discipline issue, IME. I went through this with my oldest and it had everything to do with new baby and other stressors and nothing to do with discipline. |
08-25-2014, 10:12 AM | #8 |
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Re: Another question... Peeing on the floor.
Aol- I totally agree, he was (and still is in different ways) trying to communicate with me. His life has been completely upturned multiple times this year. The thing is, aside from validating, giving my time and trying to figure out how to maintain boundaries and figure our if my feelings are realistic and fair for my kids and for me... I'm lost as to how to help him.
I wasn't worried about discipline issues with this, I just didn't want pee everywhere. It's a hard time for our family. My husband left in January and we weren't reconciled until 8 wks ago when my daughter was born. We only saw him a few times the last 3 months (anxiety started as soon as he left. My son hardly ate or 0layed for 3 days the first time). There hasn't been any arguing or fighting in front of him ever. Things are good now but my husband works out of toe 6 days a week. Oh, and he turned 3 in may. I guess I'm not sure how to help him. I'm overwhelmed and an extra emotional 3yo is like icing on the cake of things I don't know how to fix. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk ---------- Post added at 10:07 AM ---------- Previous post was at 10:06 AM ---------- Sorry 3 on the 26th of April, no idea why I said may. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk ---------- Post added at 10:10 AM ---------- Previous post was at 10:07 AM ---------- Oh, and we've had to move 4 times since September. 5 in the last year. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk ---------- Post added at 10:12 AM ---------- Previous post was at 10:10 AM ---------- And we might be moving again, my husbands trying to find a job that will keep him home.. Praying Yahweh brings us what we need to move closer to family or a fellowship SOON. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
09-02-2014, 01:51 PM | #9 |
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Re: Another question... Peeing on the floor.
My near-5yo did this about a year ago. Usually into the trash can right next to the toilet. Definitely on purpose-- when I would ask him about it or point it out he would giggle and give me a look. I talked to him about how it was not okay. I moved the trash can. I had him help me clean it up. Nothing seemed to be the magic solution, but it did seem like a phase-- it stopped after a couple months, iirc.
Sounds like you're on the right track!
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