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06-23-2014, 01:39 PM | #1 |
Rose Trellis
Deuteronomy 11:19
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Recommendations for a Friend
I have a friend who I don't talk to all that often, maybe 2x a month on average.
She called today a bit lost, her daughter is three, and she has come to realize that spanking isn't going to work unless she uses it to the point of abuse, and time outs and other mainstream parenting methods are completely failing her and her brilliant daughter. She is looking for other tools, but I don't think she is in a place yet to accept some of the more 'extreme' parenting methods and philosophies here. What are some good introductory books and or web sites (she doesn't have the best internet access so books would be better) for easy, gentle introduction into gentler parenting methods and ways of seeing kids?
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"Reflections like these lead one to spare the rod ... purely because it is not easy to find a punishment that does not defeat it's own ends." -Charlotte Mason Parents and Children pg. 171 "If punishment were necessarily reformative, and able to cure us all of those 'sins we have a mind to,' why, the world would be a very good world;" -Charlotte Mason, Parents and Children pg. 172 W&C 8/4/06; G 15yo , M 11yo , S 8/29/13 , V 8yo , Baby 2yo |
06-23-2014, 01:48 PM | #2 |
Rose Garden
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: The Pacific South-West. You know, north of the Pacific North-West
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Re: Recommendations for a Friend
How about Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey?
Or maybe even start with Have a New Kid by Friday by Leman? |
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06-23-2014, 01:50 PM | #3 |
Rose Trellis
Deuteronomy 11:19
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Re: Recommendations for a Friend
EtL,DtD was my first thought too. I haven't heard about the second but I'll mention it to her.
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"Reflections like these lead one to spare the rod ... purely because it is not easy to find a punishment that does not defeat it's own ends." -Charlotte Mason Parents and Children pg. 171 "If punishment were necessarily reformative, and able to cure us all of those 'sins we have a mind to,' why, the world would be a very good world;" -Charlotte Mason, Parents and Children pg. 172 W&C 8/4/06; G 15yo , M 11yo , S 8/29/13 , V 8yo , Baby 2yo |
06-23-2014, 01:57 PM | #4 |
Rose Garden
Why thank you, it is naturally blue...
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Re: Recommendations for a Friend
Does she need more practical tools or more discipline philosophy?
What are her exact struggles with the child/personality? Sent from my phone using Tapatalk |
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06-23-2014, 02:27 PM | #5 |
Rose Trellis
Deuteronomy 11:19
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Location: Tennessee
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Re: Recommendations for a Friend
Tools mostly. But some intro to philosophy would defiantly help.
Her daughter is having lots of tantrums (normal which she knows but she needs a new way to see them) Absolute refusal to do what is asked, even regular routine things like brushing teeth or picking up toys before nap time. She needs some tools for immediate help in parenting and an intro into philosophy so she can start seeing her daughter and the process of growing up and development in a better light helping her in the long run with parenting a very smart child. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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"Reflections like these lead one to spare the rod ... purely because it is not easy to find a punishment that does not defeat it's own ends." -Charlotte Mason Parents and Children pg. 171 "If punishment were necessarily reformative, and able to cure us all of those 'sins we have a mind to,' why, the world would be a very good world;" -Charlotte Mason, Parents and Children pg. 172 W&C 8/4/06; G 15yo , M 11yo , S 8/29/13 , V 8yo , Baby 2yo |
06-23-2014, 02:36 PM | #6 |
Rose Garden
Join Date: Dec 2008
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Re: Recommendations for a Friend
Happiest Toddler on the block might be good too. Her daughter's nearing the upper end of it, though.
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06-23-2014, 11:20 PM | #7 |
Rose Trellis
Join Date: Jun 2007
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Re: Recommendations for a Friend
I was going to say Positive Discipline or Playful Parenting. I think both give some good tools and strategies for some of the behaviors you mentioned (plus a whole lot more).
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06-24-2014, 04:41 AM | #8 |
Rose Bouquet
Remember, you are not managing an inconvenience; You are raising a human being ~ Kittie Frantz
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Western NY
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Re: Recommendations for a Friend
I like positive discipline too. They even have one that is geared towards preschoolers which I liked because the regular one had suggestions that were for older kids and it was more to wade through.
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06-24-2014, 01:27 PM | #9 |
Rosebud
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Re: Recommendations for a Friend
I have a similar background as your friend, OP. I read Positive Discipline for preschoolers every night--over and over again. Best parenting book I ever invested in.
I needed practical tools and this book really delivers. |
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06-25-2014, 08:12 AM | #10 |
Rose Bouquet
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Wisconsin USA
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Re: Recommendations for a Friend
"How To Talk So Kids Will Listen, and How To Listen So Kids Will Talk"
Best communication book I have ever read Sent from my SCH-R530U using Tapatalk
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