FlyLady chat thread!

Taedareth · 01-05-2017, 11:59 AM

Hi mamas! Do you use the FlyLady method of cleaning/de-cluttering? Are you looking for something new to try in the new year? I am just reading her book now (Sink Reflections) and would love to hear from others who have been doing it for a while, and also anyone who is a beginner like myself!

So far I've got a homeblessing journal set up, and morning/evening routines written down. That's pretty much all I've done

But it's such a relief to be able to work from a list instead of feeling lost every day when I wake up in my messy home and can't figure out where to even begin. Already, this is feeling like an improvement

What are your experiences?

RiverRock · 01-05-2017, 02:33 PM

Interesting timing. I just emptied the contents of my control journal because my dd needed the binder I had used for school. I thought to myself that I should have a smaller binder and update my lists. Flylady worked well for me when I followed her plans.

ECingMama · 01-05-2017, 03:14 PM

I forgive people with ADHD for posting things.

I'm glad people forgive me too.

I like FlyLady.

RiverRock · 01-05-2017, 03:57 PM

This article talks about the post on her page and why I won't like her FB page, despite liking her books. This isn't a matter of forgiveness, just that I don't want to align myself with this way of thinking about the roles of men and women. I don't find the video funny. https://natesparks130.com/2016/08/28/blame/

gerberadaisy · 01-05-2017, 04:32 PM

I have a little funny sort of related. I'm a FlyLady failure but the other day I was packing up our house in prep to move the rest of our stuff & posted on FB that I'm using the FL method of cleaning for packing. Instead of 45 minutes of cleaning & 15 minute breaks I was using 15 minutes of packing & 45 minute breaks.

2sunshines · 01-05-2017, 06:12 PM

I looked in to flylady years ago and liked her stuff. I'm pretty much an inspiring minimalist so I follow a lot of minimalism stuff on fb.

Thanks for the reminder! I will look in to her again! I remember she had good info.

Taedareth · 01-06-2017, 09:54 AM

That really is too bad about the video. I can remember reading a Christian marriage book years ago that said basically the same things, and not seeing anything wrong with it. Thanks in large part to GCM, I've grown a lot in my understanding of gender relationships since then.

But I can learn a lot of useful non-theological things from someone who doesn't share my theology. My college professors were atheists and they still taught me useful information

So I can appreciate the FlyLady book for the good that it has to offer

OnAMission · 01-06-2017, 10:59 AM

One of the big things I took away from trying Flylady awhile ago was that tasks don't have to take a long time. It is amazing what one can accomplish with even 3-5 minutes on a timer. That said, I am too much of a perfectionist to follow her carefully. I get bogged down and paralyzed when things aren't exactly the way I planned. I prefer loosely following MotivatedMoms for now

I have used her packing strategies in our many moves, and that is super useful

Taedareth · 01-06-2017, 11:16 AM

Oh yes! I normally stick with a job until it's 100% done. So I was skeptical when I tried her suggestion to set a timer for 15 minutes, then stop and switch to a different task for 15 minutes, then if necessary stop and return to the first task for 15 minutes. But WOW does it make a difference!

My energy is higher because I'm always fresh to the job. Apparently I just get really slow and lose track of time when I stay at a task for a longer period

The Tickle Momster · 01-06-2017, 07:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kdhfly

One of the big things I took away from trying Flylady awhile ago was that tasks don't have to take a long time. It is amazing what one can accomplish with even 3-5 minutes on a timer. That said, I am too much of a perfectionist to follow her carefully. I get bogged down and paralyzed when things aren't exactly the way I planned. I prefer loosely following MotivatedMoms for now

I have used her packing strategies in our many moves, and that is super useful

That was my big take away too. Although, over the years, I've forgotten. I got bogged down in all the set up & never did any cleaning.

Trixie · 01-06-2017, 07:48 PM

I like her general idea but I stopped getting her emails because there was just too many. I also didn't like her insistence that you HAVE to do things her way. I am just not going to put my shoes on every day. It won't happen. I kind of go through her beginner set up and pick what works for me and modify the rest. I like the basic principals, but she can be overwhelming sometimes.

gerberadaisy · 01-06-2017, 08:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Trixie

I like her general idea but I stopped getting her emails because there was just too many. I also didn't like her insistence that you HAVE to do things her way. I am just not going to put my shoes on every day. It won't happen. I kind of go through her beginner set up and pick what works for me and modify the rest. I like the basic principals, but she can be overwhelming sometimes.

yea, I take shoes off ASAP once I'm inside. I also couldn't care less whether my sink actually shines. As long as it's clean to me, I'm not worrying about shine. My mom uses Windex on everything & I think that's just a wasted step. I mean, the next person to use the sink in the bathroom is going to mess it up anyway.

Taedareth · 01-06-2017, 11:14 PM

I like having the kitchen sink empty of dishes, but I don't see value in drying it after each use

Even if a fairy offered to sit on the counter and dry the sink all day long in exchange for a cookie, I wouldn't hire her because I just don't think it looks any better that way

However, I LOVE waking up to a dish-free kitchen!!

kiloyd · 01-07-2017, 11:22 AM

I read Sink Reflections a long time ago. Loved it!

My favorite from her is "house work done incorrectly still blesses your home".

Before that I would not mop often because my mother taught me the correct way of moving all the chairs first. After reading the book, I would just sweep and not mop under the table sometimes. It got the rest of the kitchen/dining mopped.

I also scrub toilet bowls with no cleaner sometimes. And often wipe off bathroom counters or mirrors with just a wash cloth. Other times I will use a disinfecting wipe, but looking clean it was matters to me in between real cleaning.

It is really really nice to wake up to a clean kitchen, I go through seasons that I do all the dishes at night and seasons where I don't.

What ideas work for you?

OnAMission · 01-07-2017, 11:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by kiloyd

My favorite from her is "house work done incorrectly still blesses your home".

YES!! That was another important one for me, although I still struggle with that. I should make a big sign and post it in our house

01-05-2017, 11:59 AM	#1
Taedareth Rose Garden The Doctor: If there's one thing I can't stand it's an unpunctual alien attack! Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 4,895	FlyLady chat thread! Hi mamas! Do you use the FlyLady method of cleaning/de-cluttering? Are you looking for something new to try in the new year? I am just reading her book now (Sink Reflections) and would love to hear from others who have been doing it for a while, and also anyone who is a beginner like myself! So far I've got a homeblessing journal set up, and morning/evening routines written down. That's pretty much all I've done But it's such a relief to be able to work from a list instead of feeling lost every day when I wake up in my messy home and can't figure out where to even begin. Already, this is feeling like an improvement What are your experiences? __________________ Sarah - INFJ - DYT 4/2 Soapmaker. Sourdough baker. Seed sower. Duck grower. Hungarian speaker. Torah seeker. Keep within me / a stillness / deeper and sweeter / than a forest's / in mid of winter. ~Hebridean Altars

01-05-2017, 02:33 PM	#2
RiverRock Moderator Leaning, leaning, leaning on the everlasting arms. Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: In green pastures Posts: 9,769	Re: FlyLady chat thread! Interesting timing. I just emptied the contents of my control journal because my dd needed the binder I had used for school. I thought to myself that I should have a smaller binder and update my lists. Flylady worked well for me when I followed her plans. I won't "like" her on FB, though. There was a somewhat recent incident where she posted a questionable video and ignored the backlash of people asking her to remove the post. I like her idea of control journal and daily lists, but the video I found insulting. __________________ RiverRock, mom to a 24 year old diamond, 22 year old granite, 19 year old pearl, and 16 year old tiger eye. Married for 25 years to a rugged boulder and resting together on the one true Rock.

01-05-2017, 03:14 PM	#3
ECingMama Rose Garden Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 16,748	Re: FlyLady chat thread! I forgive people with ADHD for posting things. I'm glad people forgive me too. I like FlyLady. __________________ ENFp Wife who is thankful to be in love....17 years Homeschooling Mom of three....15 DD dancer and 12 DS mountain biker and 5 DD calico critter and dolly mommy 12/2014 8/2015 11/2015 9/2016

01-05-2017, 03:57 PM	#4
RiverRock Moderator Leaning, leaning, leaning on the everlasting arms. Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: In green pastures Posts: 9,769	Re: FlyLady chat thread! This article talks about the post on her page and why I won't like her FB page, despite liking her books. This isn't a matter of forgiveness, just that I don't want to align myself with this way of thinking about the roles of men and women. I don't find the video funny. https://natesparks130.com/2016/08/28/blame/ __________________ RiverRock, mom to a 24 year old diamond, 22 year old granite, 19 year old pearl, and 16 year old tiger eye. Married for 25 years to a rugged boulder and resting together on the one true Rock. Last edited by RiverRock; 01-05-2017 at 05:31 PM.

01-05-2017, 04:32 PM	#5
gerberadaisy Rose Trellis Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 2,313	Re: FlyLady chat thread! I have a little funny sort of related. I'm a FlyLady failure but the other day I was packing up our house in prep to move the rest of our stuff & posted on FB that I'm using the FL method of cleaning for packing. Instead of 45 minutes of cleaning & 15 minute breaks I was using 15 minutes of packing & 45 minute breaks.

01-05-2017, 06:12 PM	#6
2sunshines Moderator in Celebrations, Cloth Diapering & EC, Empty Arms, Prayer & Praise, and Swap n' Shop Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 27,027	Re: FlyLady chat thread! I looked in to flylady years ago and liked her stuff. I'm pretty much an inspiring minimalist so I follow a lot of minimalism stuff on fb. Thanks for the reminder! I will look in to her again! I remember she had good info. __________________ married 25 years mom to two young adults (23 and 20) and two teens (17 and 15)

01-06-2017, 09:54 AM	#7
Taedareth Rose Garden The Doctor: If there's one thing I can't stand it's an unpunctual alien attack! Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 4,895	Re: FlyLady chat thread! That really is too bad about the video. I can remember reading a Christian marriage book years ago that said basically the same things, and not seeing anything wrong with it. Thanks in large part to GCM, I've grown a lot in my understanding of gender relationships since then. But I can learn a lot of useful non-theological things from someone who doesn't share my theology. My college professors were atheists and they still taught me useful information So I can appreciate the FlyLady book for the good that it has to offer __________________ Sarah - INFJ - DYT 4/2 Soapmaker. Sourdough baker. Seed sower. Duck grower. Hungarian speaker. Torah seeker. Keep within me / a stillness / deeper and sweeter / than a forest's / in mid of winter. ~Hebridean Altars

01-06-2017, 10:59 AM	#8
OnAMission Rose Trellis Formerly kdhfly Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 1,760	Re: FlyLady chat thread! One of the big things I took away from trying Flylady awhile ago was that tasks don't have to take a long time. It is amazing what one can accomplish with even 3-5 minutes on a timer. That said, I am too much of a perfectionist to follow her carefully. I get bogged down and paralyzed when things aren't exactly the way I planned. I prefer loosely following MotivatedMoms for now I have used her packing strategies in our many moves, and that is super useful __________________ DH and four along for our crazy ride The greater the difficulty the greater the glory - Cicero

01-06-2017, 11:16 AM	#9
Taedareth Rose Garden The Doctor: If there's one thing I can't stand it's an unpunctual alien attack! Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 4,895	Re: FlyLady chat thread! Oh yes! I normally stick with a job until it's 100% done. So I was skeptical when I tried her suggestion to set a timer for 15 minutes, then stop and switch to a different task for 15 minutes, then if necessary stop and return to the first task for 15 minutes. But WOW does it make a difference! My energy is higher because I'm always fresh to the job. Apparently I just get really slow and lose track of time when I stay at a task for a longer period __________________ Sarah - INFJ - DYT 4/2 Soapmaker. Sourdough baker. Seed sower. Duck grower. Hungarian speaker. Torah seeker. Keep within me / a stillness / deeper and sweeter / than a forest's / in mid of winter. ~Hebridean Altars

01-06-2017, 07:48 PM	#11
Trixie Rose Blossom Join Date: Mar 2016 Location: Texas! Posts: 127	Re: FlyLady chat thread! I like her general idea but I stopped getting her emails because there was just too many. I also didn't like her insistence that you HAVE to do things her way. I am just not going to put my shoes on every day. It won't happen. I kind of go through her beginner set up and pick what works for me and modify the rest. I like the basic principals, but she can be overwhelming sometimes. __________________ Trixie Mother to David 2006 Sunshine 2007 Dragon 2008 Mario 2009 Happy 2014 Josiah 2015 Sirena 2016

01-06-2017, 11:14 PM	#13
Taedareth Rose Garden The Doctor: If there's one thing I can't stand it's an unpunctual alien attack! Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 4,895	Re: FlyLady chat thread! I like having the kitchen sink empty of dishes, but I don't see value in drying it after each use Even if a fairy offered to sit on the counter and dry the sink all day long in exchange for a cookie, I wouldn't hire her because I just don't think it looks any better that way However, I LOVE waking up to a dish-free kitchen!! __________________ Sarah - INFJ - DYT 4/2 Soapmaker. Sourdough baker. Seed sower. Duck grower. Hungarian speaker. Torah seeker. Keep within me / a stillness / deeper and sweeter / than a forest's / in mid of winter. ~Hebridean Altars

01-07-2017, 11:22 AM	#14
kiloyd Rose Garden Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: South Carolina Posts: 16,108	Re: FlyLady chat thread! I read Sink Reflections a long time ago. Loved it! My favorite from her is "house work done incorrectly still blesses your home". Before that I would not mop often because my mother taught me the correct way of moving all the chairs first. After reading the book, I would just sweep and not mop under the table sometimes. It got the rest of the kitchen/dining mopped. I also scrub toilet bowls with no cleaner sometimes. And often wipe off bathroom counters or mirrors with just a wash cloth. Other times I will use a disinfecting wipe, but looking clean it was matters to me in between real cleaning. It is really really nice to wake up to a clean kitchen, I go through seasons that I do all the dishes at night and seasons where I don't. What ideas work for you? __________________ k-i-loyd, not kill loyd ISFJ/P Katherine, married 8-9-97 ds1 22 (adding a dil in August!) dd1 18 dd2 16 ds2 10

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