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09-28-2016, 05:40 PM | #1 |
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I made peace with Facebook.
I've taken lots of Facebook breaks over the years. My life is always better during a Facebook break.
I've completely disengaged from all controversial discussions on Facebook. But it still was sucking my life force. I have multiple friends who deactivated completely. I didn't want to do that, although it was really tempting. I have childhood friends who I'll probably never see again on this earth. All our family is on the other side of the country. So, I unfollowed about 98% of my Facebook friends. Including GCMs. I figured if something big happens in a GCMs life, she'll probably post about it here. My feed is now ONLY people who are extremely close to me and far away. Plus local people that I get together with and use Facebook to make social plans. It's awesome. |
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09-28-2016, 05:45 PM | #2 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
This is what mine mainly is sprinkled with pages that update and make me happy, science and knitting stuff.
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09-28-2016, 05:57 PM | #3 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
My DH deactivated several months ago - his life is better. I'm decreasing my time there also, which given my infrequency before, is now a quick log on and log off.
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09-28-2016, 06:25 PM | #4 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
Do those people post often enough that you truly only see those people in your feed?
I unfollowed my adult nephew, but the rest of my family FB is so slow (it's a shared account with my husband) that I could check it once a month and see EVERYTHING in one feed in about 12 minutes from the 78 people there. So it still shows me notifications about my nephew. (He mostly posts about video games, and I'm not interested.) You would like my family FB. It's got cute pictures of my kids. I'm sorry I was one of the people who posted yucky things during that season on FB. I'm still distraught over what happened to Veronica and others like her. I wish I hadn't posted about it so much or joined all those secret groups. They wore me out. Now I just pray for Veronica. Also, will it be obvious to others that you've unfollowed them? I'm mostly asking because I want to know if I am still going to see your pictures when I sneak on my friend FB! There are a few people I can't get a hold of except on FB, so I have to go on there on occasion during my FB breaks.
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09-28-2016, 08:27 PM | #5 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
It is not obvious that you've been unfollowed. Not only that, but you can still see them in your feed.
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09-28-2016, 08:50 PM | #6 | |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
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Yes, I can see every new post on only a few minutes a week. If you unfollow someone, you still show up in their feed. Unless they unfollow you. They might notice that you never like or comment on their posts anymore. |
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09-28-2016, 09:17 PM | #7 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
I made myself a new, no friends, group only profile. For a parenting group I started. For gentle parenting Christians, in my home town. I had a problem with a family member though, and she was in that group also. In the end, I tried all sorts of things to keep information about myself to a minimum but at the point we had a crisis (my health started it off) I needed support and I needed to not have any leaks. I couldn't plug the leaks. It actually helped to deactivate and leave completely, because then my support came from some of those people off fb, and from church and neighbours.
Turning my life into all real life (except GCM!!!) has been amazing. I've made peace with fb too. I may consider reactivating the group profile only for our pastors wives of the LCA group, and possibly the parenting group but that's too tricky because I have all of dh's family blocked and some are in that group. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk
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09-28-2016, 09:29 PM | #8 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
I have periodically deactivated FB and I've noticed the difference.
Now I am slowly going through and removing groups that I joined because they look good (and probably are, but I just don't have the time!) and really praying over the amount of "friends" and how they impact my life. Glad to see I'm not the only one.
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09-29-2016, 10:13 AM | #9 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
I've done the same thing, and I love it! It isn't perfect, but so much better than it used to be.
I'm like you, I'm happier without it, but miss those few real long-distance connections I have on there when I'm on breaks. Another option is what my DH has done, which is installing the chrome extension News Feed Eradicator, which gets rid of your news feed altogether and makes it more like old school facebook.
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09-29-2016, 11:57 AM | #10 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
Oh huh. Good info. The reason I haven't is bc so many homeschool groups/activities are communicated on fb that I can't delete my account or we'll miss out on what's going on
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09-29-2016, 01:28 PM | #11 | |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
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09-29-2016, 02:03 PM | #12 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
I've unfollowed most people -- and followed the people most important to me -- that means they are at the top of my feed. I've made other changes with it that have made it much more enjoyable. It helped when I remembered that discomfort is usually an issue of boundaries. And I've made sure to set some whether the other people involved know or not.
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09-29-2016, 03:03 PM | #13 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
I completely deactivated Facebook several years ago, and it was honestly one of the best things I ever did. It really help cut down my screen time.
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09-30-2016, 05:58 PM | #14 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
I think the way you are using facebook now sounds really healthy. Good for you for finding peace with it! It's frustrating that it is required just to keep up with social things with local friends. I get that it makes things easier but not everyone has facebook.
On a side note, if you hide someone but decide you want to start seeing them show up in your feed again, do you know how to do that? |
10-01-2016, 11:37 PM | #15 |
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Re: I made peace with Facebook.
Search for them and then follow them.
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