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05-14-2012, 10:44 PM | #1 |
Climbing Rose
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Arizona
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Pet Peeve #5 by my own mom
I should have seen this coming. I mean I was raised with this. So here is the scenario...
Mom---Lala will you please pick up your shoes and put them away Lala---not right now Mom---Lala I asked you to please pick up your shoes Lala---Yes, and I said not right now Mom---Lala, if you do not pick up your shoes then I'll throw them out Lala----(obligingly picks up her shoes) Mom---Now why did I have to threaten to get you to do what I asked? At this point I stepped in. I really understood what Lala was doing and I figured Mom would figure this out, she didn't. OK so pet peeve of mine, don't make a request unless it is a REQUEST. If it REQUIRED then simply state it. Now don't get me wrong, I use please, thank you, etc with my kids when they are called for, but when it is a requirement, I don't ask, I state. Here's how it WOULD HAVE happened had it been me... Me--Lala, pick up your shoes and put them away Lala---yes, ma'am Me---thank you If she did say no, then I would have told her the probable consequence, but chances are, for something like that, she would have just done it. I explained this to mom and of course got the typical line I got as a child.... "if an authority asks politely it is the same thing as being told" Sorry, but last job I had, if it was optional, it was a please. If she was asking for volunteers it was a please. But she never said, "OK well, would you all please clean up the kitchen, we have an inspection tomorrow?" Ummm, no, it was, "there is an inspection tomorrow and the kitchen needs to be cleaned. Thank you." Am I completely insane? I mean, should Lala see this a request as a requirement?
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