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07-24-2014, 02:05 PM | #1 |
Rose Garden
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4yo cut off some of 10yo's AG doll's hair
She's taking a nap so I haven't talked to her yet. What would be an appropriate discipline for dd2? It's going to be $52 to fix, which is a lot for us. I am frustrated because I spend so much energy trying to save $10 or $5, and in one fell swoop she cost us $52 and probably doesn't care. So the money is going to have to come from somewhere. I have some of her birthday money that she hasn't spent yet and that is going there for sure- can't remember how much it is but it's not anywhere near that. Could we sell some of her stuff to pay for the doll hair she cut off, or is that too harsh of a lesson for a 4yo? I wouldn't pick her favorite things, obviously. She has a dollhouse she hardly ever plays with. I just feel like a 4yo is so flighty and unaware that a concrete lesson like this would be lost on her. But I don't want her to think it's okay to just destroy things. I could probably scrimp on groceries enough in the next month to pay for the rest. Or I could take it out of the money I have saved for her Christmas presents- she probably wouldn't notice. One thing I feel for sure is dd1 (who actually has money) shouldn't have to pay for it since it's not her fault. She did do it with dd1's scissors which dd1 keeps in her room (or I should say kept in her room- obviously we're not doing that anymore).
I am so frustrated with having kids just do whatever they want to do all the time.
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07-24-2014, 02:18 PM | #2 |
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Re: 4yo cut off some of 10yo's AG doll's hair
At age 4 did she really know that it is something she wasnt supposed to do? she has no concept of it being a lot of money to fix. If it is something that has come up before and she was told she may not cut doll hair that is one things.If not it just seems like a logical thing to a 4 yr old - people get hair cuts,why not dolls.If that is the case would have a talk about ho you know she thought it would be ok to cut dolls hair but theirs doesnt grow back and so it isnt something she can do etc. If it was a something she knew was wrong kind of thing not sure of a consequence but the cost should have no bearing.
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07-24-2014, 02:48 PM | #3 |
Rose Garden
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Re: 4yo cut off some of 10yo's AG doll's hair
Yes, she knew she wasn't supposed to, but only as much as a 4yo can know that.
I came up with a more concrete lesson for her, I think. I told her that her Bitty Twin doll was going to be dd1's doll until dd1's doll comes back from the AG doll hospital, at which point she will get her back.
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07-24-2014, 02:52 PM | #4 |
Rose Garden
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Re: 4yo cut off some of 10yo's AG doll's hair
That sounds like a good consequence!
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