I am very angry right now with lieing!!

[DavidKelleyMay18]

If there is one thing I cannot handle or stand it is lieing. I grew up with my older brother that always lied and still does. My kids went through a stage of lieing. I do have one child that I don't think lies but totally sees it in the light of one way, so I tend to not believe her ways as it is not seem accurate. Then my 5 yr. and 7 yr. old doesn't seem to tell me to the truth in fear that they will be in trouble which I don't understand as I just talk with them about it. It seems to be the 7 yr. old mostly.

Last night the towel rack we found broken on the toilet. Since the 7 yr. old locked the door we assumed it was him. Also, yesterday morning the cup in the bathroom was broken. He kept saying that he didn't do it. I kept telling him that I just wanted the truth. I said, "I don't believe you" and I want to believe you. I said if you keep not telling the truth I can't believe you. I had already asked everyone else and I really believe it was him.

This am I get up with no one else up and ask him. No, he tells me again. I said I am not going to get mad. I just want the truth! I said, God always wants the truth, and if I don't get the truth that yes I'm going to be mad. Finally, 5 minutes later he tells me that he doesn't want Daddy to be mad, but then tells me again that he didn't do it when I ask. Now I'm boiling!! I was soo calm, but I snapped. I told him I never believe him anymore, and he's a liar. I know not the right reaction at all.

Now I'm thinking of all of the things the last several weeks that I'd ask him that I thought maybe he was being untruthful about but I didn't know. The kids even with simple things would say he was lieing, and I'd say we have to believe what he says. I told him that I'm very angry at him right now. All of a sudden okay I'll tell you. Yes, I told him I'm not interested.

I'm just soo upset! I was being so calm and trying to just find out what happened. DH does have a tendency to yell at him which I keep talking to DH about, but I kept telling him that it was more important to tell the truth. It probably didn't help that he slapped him last night which will be in another thread.

Kelley

---------- Post added at 12:19 PM ---------- Previous post was at 11:59 AM ----------

Oh and I was going to let him go on the computer, but I'm thinking of saying that I feel like I can't trust him so he's not going on the computer right now. Is that okay to say? Later we are supposed to go a "tuck a truck" I think it's called that the kids get to go on the truck. I think it's still okay to do that.