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View Poll Results: How did you feel when you watched your firstborn's baby video? | |||
Glorious! I have hit every parenting goal and life is a bowl of cherries! | 0 | 0% | |
Great! I'm as sweet as I ever was! | 1 | 10.00% | |
Fair-to-middling: We've had our ups and downs but overall I'm a great mom! | 7 | 70.00% | |
Disgusted: Where did we go wrong? | 2 | 20.00% | |
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 10. You may not vote on this poll |
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08-20-2014, 11:29 PM | #1 |
Rose Bouquet
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Poll: Have you watched a video of your firstborn...
We just watched the 0-9 months DVD of my 10-yr-old and it was wonderful of course, but the whole time I was thinking: We totally screwed up between the parents we were then and the parents we have become.
I feel like no matter how hard I try I will never get back to that innocent, "I'll be the best mommy ever" time. The best part was that my ginormous boy sat on my lap for the entire 2-hour movie! So I guess I have not failed completely. Note: Poll results are NOT set to show who voted for which choice!
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08-21-2014, 01:38 AM | #2 |
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Re: Poll: Have you watched a video of your firstborn...
I can barely watch them. Or look at pics. He had huge red flags for autism yet it took 6 years to get a dx despite asking professionals for years. So it's an if I knew then what I know now thing for me.
I didn't vote. He loves to watch the videos. I'm a good mom. This isn't what I planned. I wouldn't want a different kid or do things differently. It's been hard for all of us. |
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08-21-2014, 03:02 AM | #3 |
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Re: Poll: Have you watched a video of your firstborn...
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08-21-2014, 06:34 AM | #4 |
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Re: Poll: Have you watched a video of your firstborn...
I have had 21 years and 4 kids to assess and reassess my parenting skills--a perfectionist's dream or nightmare, depending on how you look at it.
Overall, I am coming to the point where I can say that I have done and am doing the best I can and that my best has been pretty good. We are certainly having our ups and downs, so I could not vote for the choice that life has been a bowl full of cherries.
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08-21-2014, 07:11 AM | #5 |
Rose Garden
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Re: Poll: Have you watched a video of your firstborn...
We don't have baby videos so that sort of left me out but I know I'm a better mom for having researched and learned and put the effort in. And most importantly where I know I messed up I've owned it and my kids are learning I'm not perfect either but my love for them is unwavering even if I've made mistakes.
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08-21-2014, 07:58 AM | #6 |
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Re: Poll: Have you watched a video of your firstborn...
Videos of DD as a baby make my eyes misty and amaze me at how big she's gotten. I don't really see any parenting mistakes but some of them bring back memories of feeling overwhelmed and lonely at that time and the "yay! look at you!" type comments often were a little faker than I would have liked them to be. I did have dreams of being some iconic 50s type mom though who loooved every moment of motherhood, had a sparkling house and an adorable baby that everyone cooed over. Instead I was the mom with spit up in her hair, breastmilk down her shirt, pjs on all day, showered once a week, and almost always had housework or dishes in the sink and who's baby screamed murder from morning to night. It's kind of funny and sad looking back.
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08-21-2014, 01:54 PM | #7 |
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Re: Poll: Have you watched a video of your firstborn...
My dad took millions of hours of video of Timothy (before I got married and discovered that my husband is obsessed with family videos). I was young, but I'd like to think I was/am a good mom. Summer also has tons of video, and I'm sure the twins and any future kids will end up with lots of video too.
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08-21-2014, 02:07 PM | #8 |
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Re: Poll: Have you watched a video of your firstborn...
I hear the anxiety in my voice. But also the gushing pride
It's the toddler videos of my firstborn that bring back memories of my failures and make me wince. |
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