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Old 12-18-2005, 07:15 AM   #61
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Sandy,

That should be fine. For me, it took some time and redirection with my boys before the "comfort corner" was something they understood and was part of their calming routine.
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Old 03-02-2006, 03:31 AM   #62
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this is the best idea. I hadnt thought of it. We are coming out of a punitive sort of disciplining 'regime' and this is the best idea. I honestly have so many questions about this stuff. I have always felt that grace based discipline was right, before I found any info about it. Why is it that there is so much out there about spanking and so little about Gods grace. I have been feeling God telling me 'Do I treat you like that Gen?'. Ive attempted to make the changes naturally of my own accord without resources only going on what I feel God is telling me to do in individual circumstances. Im really greatful for this site and the infor it offers! thanks!
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Old 03-22-2006, 01:54 PM   #63
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Well I got one thing I read the whole thread and loved all the feedback and now I am thinking of doing this we have always had the couch or the play room never a official place. So at anyrate I know if I do this I love the tent idea too but If I do this then I wonder my kids I am 100 percent sure their going to use it as a place to play. If their are little couches they will sit on them for sure and read and if their not in trouble they would too. Is that ok at their ages the older two are 5 and 6 and the baby she is only 22 months but as the twos approach she could use a place to go when she throws her fits.
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Old 03-22-2006, 01:59 PM   #64
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. If their are little couches they will sit on them for sure and read and if their not in trouble they would too
this is punitive thinking--they aren't "in trouble", they need to get a grip & come back to the team
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Old 03-22-2006, 02:12 PM   #65
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I am having a seriously hard time getting away from the "in trouble" mindset.

Re: the comfort corner...I'm referring to our area as the Chill Zone ...

The problem is, we've referred to it all of once by that name (or any at all), and the other day when ds was wigging out, I sat down on the mattress and put my arms out to him and offered, "Come over here, Sweetie, can I help you settle down? Do you want to snuggle?" and I got (imagine almost un-understandable whine) "I don't WAAAANNNT to go to the chill zone!!!!!!! NOOOoooooooo!"

What gives? I've been pretty careful not to suggest helping him calm down in terms of punishment - just help - but he gets so negative/reactive that even suggesting a specific place to go somehow triggers a rant.
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this is punitive thinking--they aren't "in trouble", they need to get a grip & come back to the team
Ok maybe I need a comfort cornor lol sorry about the term
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. If their are little couches they will sit on them for sure and read and if their not in trouble they would too
this is punitive thinking--they aren't "in trouble", they need to get a grip & come back to the team
Ok maybe I need a comfort cornor lol sorry about the term
Well, even if Nathan doesn't want it, I've sure been using it. Very comfy.
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Old 03-22-2006, 05:37 PM   #68
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It's okay It's funny because sometimes I get upset and say "OOOOOOH if you don't stop that you will all be in big trouble." So I asked them one day what "trouble" was--they said it was when mommy was mad
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Another comfort corner idea: Australia.
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