gentleness won!!!

Beauty4Ashes · 10-01-2007, 01:11 PM

Today I had to get my children out the door kind of early for Bashar's appointment with a genetic counselor. I prepared their breakfasts as much as possible prior to waking them up, had clothing/underwear/diapers out for them, juice poured, etc. I gave them time warnings, i.e. in 20 minutes you need to have finished your breakfast because we will be leaving for the doctor. I told Bashar that today he would have to see a doctor who was going to ask mommy some questions. When I was brushing my teeth, the boys went running outside and jumped on their bicycles. One of their friends was sitting on the stair case of his apartment. I thought to myself, oh great, we're in for a fight. I spoke firmly to them, No more bicycles, we are going to a doctor's appointment. They both got off their bikes and followed me! I said to them, hold each other's hands, and they did. I didn't repeat myself.

On the way to the doctor's, I saw a lady carrying her son (I'm guessing) in her arms. He looked like he was around 4 years old. She was getting frustrated with him because when she put him down, he sat down on the ground and refused to continue walking. I heard her shaming her son with her words, telling him that she didn't care what he wanted, that it was time to go. I found myself hanging my head because I can think of times when those same words came out of my mouth. My sons were skipping/jumping along the way to the doctor's. In the hallway, I told Bashar that this appointment was not going to hurt, the doctor would take a look at him and that he may take some blood, but that I was confident that he (Bashar) would be okay because I've seen how brave that he's been when his blood is drawn. I was just amazed by how they listened to me and did what I asked them to do, no threatening, no yelling, and by how calm and in control I felt. I had to share a success story, I never thought that I would have this experience.

abbiroads · 10-01-2007, 01:18 PM

LadybugSam · 10-01-2007, 01:20 PM

Elora · 10-01-2007, 01:22 PM

*happy dances with you* I LOVE stories like these! Thank you for sharing! Very encouraging. Also great to read when mamas appreciate days like these...here's to "remembering" them on the "harder" days

The Tickle Momster · 10-01-2007, 01:34 PM

10-01-2007, 01:11 PM	#1
Beauty4Ashes Rose Garden Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 13,095	gentleness won!!! Today I had to get my children out the door kind of early for Bashar's appointment with a genetic counselor. I prepared their breakfasts as much as possible prior to waking them up, had clothing/underwear/diapers out for them, juice poured, etc. I gave them time warnings, i.e. in 20 minutes you need to have finished your breakfast because we will be leaving for the doctor. I told Bashar that today he would have to see a doctor who was going to ask mommy some questions. When I was brushing my teeth, the boys went running outside and jumped on their bicycles. One of their friends was sitting on the stair case of his apartment. I thought to myself, oh great, we're in for a fight. I spoke firmly to them, No more bicycles, we are going to a doctor's appointment. They both got off their bikes and followed me! I said to them, hold each other's hands, and they did. I didn't repeat myself. On the way to the doctor's, I saw a lady carrying her son (I'm guessing) in her arms. He looked like he was around 4 years old. She was getting frustrated with him because when she put him down, he sat down on the ground and refused to continue walking. I heard her shaming her son with her words, telling him that she didn't care what he wanted, that it was time to go. I found myself hanging my head because I can think of times when those same words came out of my mouth. My sons were skipping/jumping along the way to the doctor's. In the hallway, I told Bashar that this appointment was not going to hurt, the doctor would take a look at him and that he may take some blood, but that I was confident that he (Bashar) would be okay because I've seen how brave that he's been when his blood is drawn. I was just amazed by how they listened to me and did what I asked them to do, no threatening, no yelling, and by how calm and in control I felt. I had to share a success story, I never thought that I would have this experience. __________________ Tammy--ISTJ wife to AbuBa(6/2001) mom to B (6/2004) D (6/2005) L 4/2008 R 9/2015 Isaiah 61:3 To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that they might be glorified.

10-01-2007, 01:18 PM	#2
abbiroads Rose Garden Join Date: May 2005 Posts: 12,379	Re: gentleness won!!! __________________ Abbi dh: Jeff ds1: Joey 12/03 ds2: Eli 4/06 ds3: Judah 4/08

10-01-2007, 01:20 PM	#3
LadybugSam Deactivated ladybug, ladybug fly away home Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Central California Posts: 18,187	Re: gentleness won!!!

10-01-2007, 01:22 PM	#4
Elora Deactivated Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 16,426	Re: gentleness won!!! happy dances with you I LOVE stories like these! Thank you for sharing! Very encouraging. Also great to read when mamas appreciate days like these...here's to "remembering" them on the "harder" days

10-01-2007, 01:34 PM	#5
The Tickle Momster Rose Garden previously mlrowley Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: NW WA Posts: 17,954	Re: gentleness won!!! __________________ Michelle wife to Tom ('95) Momma to: DD (A) 21 and her DH (YM) 21 DS (T) 19 DD (C) 17 '07 DS (N) 14 Save Save

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