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Old 12-01-2018, 10:08 AM   #1
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Default The "I turned out fine" argument

I really liked this article that breaks down the fallacies of the "I turned out fine" argument. (He relates it to spanking, but it can apply to any parenting choice that's different from previous generations.)


https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/27/w...-argument.html
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Default Re: The "I turned out fine" argument

Thank you for sharing that.
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Default Re: The "I turned out fine" argument

What a great article! Thank you for sharing. So much.
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