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I was just wondering...
My ds, who is 16 months, just starts to scream louder and louser when I do the bear hug. He does understand small things, like "Please bring me your shoes."etc. When it is time to clean up, I always have to help him, because he doesn't have the attention span to do it himself yet. What I do is this... I say, "It's time to clean up now." I then slowly start cleaning and he starts to help. When he starts to throw a "tantrum" I try to calm him down with the "bear hug". He just gets louder. I'm not quite sure what to do at this point. Any advice?
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![]() Yep, Ladies ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() it really works.......and I'm so much calmer as well now.....of course I still have my moments, but less and less.. ![]() Halelujah!! Thankyou for the 5 steps...I've been telling all my freinds here in rainy Manchester about it! |
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oops sorry laura!
![]() i didnt offer any advice.... ![]() with an 18mth old try good old diversion.....ie counting the things you're putting away in a loud and funny voice? or tickling him after every thing you put away...make a game? or go through the five steps again?..in a quiet voice sometimes helps.....they have to quiet down to hear what you're saying? |
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And with an 18 mo I'd do step one and then skip to step 3 and make step 4 doing it with him or even 4 him, though if you start and make it playful he will likely jump right in
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I agree!!!
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with the 5 steps, I may not be getting it but with the 5th step (the bear hug), it that used only when DS isn't complying after helping him?
Can you please explain that more? thankyou |
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Yep, Thanks for that.
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is it just me or should step five come with a clause to it? I showed it to a few ap friends and they wonder how a child picking up toys goes from picking up toys, to a juvenile deliquent in need of restraint.
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![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Most often picking up toys does not requre the fifth step ![]()
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thats what I said and they were, I don't know Kelli.......ugh. Anyway, I'm over it. I know I'm not a punitive parent. There was all this stuff said about step 5 invading a childs space, and I was like
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Hugging a child when they're a bit out of control is much better than shouting and smacking.....
I find the 5 step method very helpful, and much more comforting for a child.... sometime other people's 'helpful feedback' tells you more about them and 'where they are' with stuff than about your progress... God Bless you sarah xxx |
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