Frustrated

[Doulamama]

I feel the need to vent, so please, humor me.

About a month ago dd started really fighting her afternoon nap and sleeping terribly at night (and by terribly I mean 4+ nightwakings). So I thought, she's a year, maybe we should try doing one nap. It's been such a struggle since then. I've been trying all sorts of different nap times. She wants to nap in the morning but if she doesn't nap long, she wants an afternoon nap too, but she refuses to nap until 5 pm or later. Then when she naps that late she refuses to go down for the night until 10, and fights me to go down and sleeps terribly. If we try to do one nap, later in the day, like closer to 12, she gets overtired and wont sleep for more than an hour, if even that long. I know 45 minutes can't be enough daytime sleep. On these type days she goes to bed early, around 7 and goes down really easily, but still sleep terribly. Last night she went down at 7 no problem, but was waking EVERY HOUR, the best stretch of sleep was 7am-8:30am. Also she won't have anything to do with Dh in the middle of the night. She will allow him to put her to sleep sleep, but she won't let him near her when she wakes.

I really want to be able to attend births again, I even have one coming up this month, I just don't know how this going to work out. Makes me really stressed. Do I just wait another year to attend birth again, in hopes that by the time she's two she'll be sleeping better?