My kids are older

[momaich]

Hi all, can you direct me to some reading materials for our situation? My kids are aged 12-17 years and I feel they are disrespectful. They make fun of me for being old and having gray hair and being forgetful. To some extent, this behavior mimics the way my husband speaks to me. He is not a Christian and does not speak about other people in a respectful manner. He often makes unkind remarks about other people. I have been using grace based discipline since the kids were small, but it has not rubbed off on my husband. He sees it as a failure because the kids do not jump up and do what he asks as soon as he asks it. In any case, I need to do something and I am not adverse to adjusting my own behaviors and attitudes. I do find myself keeping my mouth shut just so I don't have to deal with criticism from my family members. I'm very unhappy and know this can't continue. I've also just been through a major health crisis and have little time or energy to do research so I am cheating and asking for specific direction to reading materials that will help asap. Thanks so much.