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11-15-2011, 03:25 PM | #182 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Break, what's that?
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11-15-2011, 03:38 PM | #183 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
I was losing it over a mess yesterday. DD was doing snow angels in a pile of dried beans that I'd brought out for her. We hit -25 today so outside play isn't really an option for more than a few minutes, so I've been trying to incorporate a lot of sensory options and I just ended up giving myself an excuse to lose my cool.
DH was upstairs and heard me growling and came down to take over parenting while I seethed a few feet away. He's basically the best. Today both babies are sick, the older is beating up the younger, and I am just doing my best to get through the day. But what am I supposed to do when sensory play options are messy, leaving the house is hazardous to our health, etc etc. Maybe we'll try finger painting in the bathtub. Can't go wrong with water play right? Maybe?
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11-15-2011, 04:11 PM | #184 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Our winter isn't as long as yours but we go to the hands-on children's museum a lot in winter. They have a sand table there.
Some moms do shaving cream in the bathtub, our lots of ice cubes to play with in a warm bath. |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
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---------- Post added at 03:45 PM ---------- Previous post was at 03:40 PM ---------- Hi, my name is April. and i yell. sometimes a lot. and I'm mean. I'm embarrassed to even be on here, but it helps to be able to share the good things I do, too. I wish there was a magic "decompress" button for when I'm mad and feel i HAVE to scream. haven't found it yet. sigh.
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11-15-2011, 04:49 PM | #186 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
I ordered the book and received it yesterday. would love to do challenge.
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11-15-2011, 07:38 PM | #187 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
would love to do the challenge but don't have the book.
I'm convinced that I'm not a "normal" yeller. I truly feel like I don't have control of myself sometimes. I get stuck on this scary emotional roller coaster and just have to hold on until it's over. God bless the poor babies who get in my way when I'm like that. I know that everyone says that we do have control over our reactions but I just don't feel like I do. I pray and pray and ask God to change me through his Holy Spirit and I know His word promises that he will hear our cries but sometimes I feel like I'm not getting through. My babies don't deserve to go through this but I don't know how to stop it. I wake up every day determined to be more gentle, more forgiving, more kind, and every day I screw it up. |
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11-15-2011, 08:43 PM | #188 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
oh, Sara
you are not alone in your struggles. really, you're not. and, as has been said before in this thread - you are here, so you are working on the changes you want to see in your life is there any one thing you can do in the moment before you lose control that would help you. even if it is as simple as running into the other room? parenting is a journey. it is not a single day or a single moment. nor is it a year. it is many years. and in those years, there will be good parenting moments and not-so-good ones. you can do this. God does not go back on his Word. He is your strength. Through him all things *are* possible. don't quit. and don't give up on yourself. i'm sure many of us here could say that we have not felt like a normal yeller. I know I've looked at myself and shaken my head - who was that??? anyway. I just want you to know that you are not alone
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11-16-2011, 07:31 PM | #189 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
I raised my voice a few times today (almost yelling). The final straw was DS2 vomiting all his stomach's content over the kitchen table, 3 chairs and the floor, in all the possible bends of the chairs. (He is not sick, he chokes easily and he vomits to clear his airway.) That is right after I put a bowl under his mouth and he pushed it away! And right at bedtime too. I bawled my eyes out...
I'm just having a hard time with being a mom, especially that I think about a 3rd child being added. I really feel like a mediocre mom. I'm the best at nurturing infants. But toddlers... I don't like playing with them at all. I like having them around, as long as they let me do my own stuff (cleaning and cooking basically). I like taking them outside too, which we don't get to do a lot with the cooler no-snow weather. Sorry, just venting today's frustration.
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11-16-2011, 07:37 PM | #190 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Does anyone find that while trying to squelch yelling other undesirable behaviors pop up (in yourself)?
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11-16-2011, 08:44 PM | #191 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Green Orchid - I have a hard time with toddlers, too. My least favourite time is age 1-2.
Dovenoir - you mean in yourself or the kids? |
11-17-2011, 06:14 PM | #192 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Grr touch screen. Looks like I accidentally unsubbed. I've been doing well despite being sick.
A couple snaps, then gaining control which is improvement over letting the monster loose.
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11-17-2011, 06:25 PM | #193 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Well I messed up this afternoon. Trying to get kids in shower. I totally lost it with dd. I was a total frustrated mess. I know I was stressed out trying to get kids ready, 101 things to do before tomorrow....
I did apologize to each of them. I know I need to plan my days better. Even though I can't really afford to, I may take a week off of school and work on making a plan/routine so I will feel more in control instead of getting stressed out because I didn't do anything that needed to be done in the house until last minute. Or maybe I'll try and work on that this weekend. |
11-17-2011, 09:33 PM | #194 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Doing better. Being done with PMS helps. Trying to get regular sleep. Dh is gone the next few days so I'm nervous...
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11-17-2011, 10:40 PM | #195 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
I was hollering today . . .
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