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04-22-2012, 06:10 PM | #1 |
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How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
I have 2 months to make it happen.
Our current set up is the boys starting the night in their room, then around midnight they join me in bed. When DH comes to bed (between 12am-2am - he works nights), he puts DS1 on a mattress on the floor and DS2 sleeps between DH and me. There is no space in our room to put two mattresses on the floor (it's just 9x9), so by the time baby comes, I need the boys to sleep all night in their room. How do I do it? They both hate the idea.
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04-22-2012, 06:30 PM | #3 |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
what if you reverse the sequence of events by letting them start out in your room/bed and then moving them later when you came to bed?
Another thought, couldn't both boys fit on one twin mattress? My youngest girls often shared a twin bed until recently. My kids also did better staying in their own beds when they had something belonging to dh or I to hold or wear. The little girls still wear old t-shirts that dh gave them a few years ago.
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04-22-2012, 06:43 PM | #4 |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
You are nicer than I am When the kids come to our room in the middle of the night, they just sleep on the floor. If the floor really bothers them, then they can stay in their beds
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
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04-23-2012, 06:26 PM | #6 |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
DH flat out refuses to try the sleep in our bed then move to their room option. He says he'd rather have them start and stay in their room, he thinks it will be "easier". Grrr.
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04-23-2012, 06:36 PM | #7 |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
I'd love to figure this out too, at least for one of them. DH and I haven't slept in the same bed for years. There's just not room for 4 of us in our queen.
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04-23-2012, 06:36 PM | #8 |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
Really, even just one night?
We found some success in a sort of reward system. We put a sticker, to keep track of all the nights ds1 slept in his own bed. When he reached his goal we celebrated
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04-23-2012, 07:27 PM | #9 |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
We did a reward system for our girls. When they went seven nights (not in a row) of staying in their bed all night, they got to go to the dollar tree. The oldest, 5, did seven nights in a row. The 3 yo (at the time) took ten days to reach 7. After doing that, they just got in the habit of staying in their bed all night. They do occasionally come to our room, but just lay on the floor and don't even bother us.
For our almost seven year old, he was still in our room until last week. I bought him star wars blanket set and curtains, and now he at least falls asleep in his room , and then comes in our room between 2 and 5 and just sleeps on the floor. He never made seven days, so he started counting down last week. He's made it 5 days, in a row |
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04-23-2012, 07:50 PM | #10 |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
It's not my thread, but can I ask a question?
The reward chart is a good idea, and my daughter would probably respond well to the idea of getting to pick out a surprise. But she's totally delirious in the middle of the night and I don't think she would care at all about earning a prize when she's half asleep just wanting to snuggle, you know?
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04-23-2012, 07:56 PM | #11 |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
Sleep with them in their room? That's how I taught DS1 to stay in his room. And yes, that was while I was pregnant.
That method didn't work with EBug though, and Goggle has needed a different approach as well. None of my children would accomplish this with any sort of bribery (charts, stickers, surprises, etc.)
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04-23-2012, 08:52 PM | #12 |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
DH and I are done co-sleeping. We've been trying every gentle way we could to keep them in their beds, but it wasn't working. About three weeks ago, we started sending the girls to bed (they share a room) with a walkie talkie. If they need something or they're scared, they're allowed to call us on the walkie talkie, but they are NOT allowed to leave their room. It's been working so far. The only times they've come to our room have been when we've been too deeply asleep to hear the walkie talkie. I think they're finding it comforting because it's a real link to a real live Mum and Dad in the other room. So far there's been only one night where they've abused the system and called us excessively.
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04-23-2012, 09:05 PM | #13 |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
I'm due in Oct and I need one out of my room by then (the 5 y/o) and one (the 3 y/o) just on to the bed next to mine (where the 5 y/o is now). A reward worked with dd when she was 6, but I'm not sure it'll matter to ds.
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
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Now, when they come in my room, they don't bother me, because they know if they do that I would walk them back to their room and lay with them until they go to sleep. So, they just come in my room, and sleep on the floor. And that's a-okay with me |
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Re: How do I get the boys to sleep in their room the whole night?
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Believe it or not, their room is too small for me to sleep in it (it's 9x6). And their toddler beds are not sturdy enough for me to join them in it.
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