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Old 04-29-2012, 10:35 PM   #1
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Default Would you hire a newly-12 yr old.

As a mother's helper? And if so, what would your expectations be?

My friend's DD will be 12 in May(or June) and is great with Sammy. He adores her. So i thought i would hire her for a few hours a week so i could get some packing/unpacking done this summer.

So, how does it work, anyway? I've never hired a mothers helper. And how much should i pay her?
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Old 04-29-2012, 10:45 PM   #2
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My baby sister has been babysitting for us since she was 11 and I have junior high youth babysit often, so I'd totally hire a 12yo as a mother's helper. I've never had a mother's helper, though, so I'm not much use for the rest.
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Old 04-30-2012, 05:43 AM   #3
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Default Re: Would you hire a newly-12 yr old.

I was a mother's helper when I turned 13. I would hire a responsible, mature 12 yo I knew well.

I have a newly 15 yo who comes over to be my mother's helper for a few hours each week, she's been coming for a year and half. She basically just plays with G in one room while I'm in another actually accomplishing something. With a 12 yo I might not let them play in the front yard but anywhere in the house would be fine. I still change a diaper, get snacks, etc for G when he needs them. I pay her $5/hour and it's the best money I spend
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Old 04-30-2012, 05:47 AM   #4
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My 13 yo started as a mother's helper at 11. She was paid 10 a day (3-4 hours)
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Old 04-30-2012, 05:50 AM   #5
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Default Re: Would you hire a newly-12 yr old.

I have hired a 12yo as a mother's helper (she may even have still been 11), and it was great. We paid $5/hour. My expectation was simply that she played with the kids, and she gave them simple snacks as well. I would expect that any discipline issues be brought to me.
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Default Re: Would you hire a newly-12 yr old.

idk. lol. at 11 i started working as a mothers helper and babysat a bunch of kids during a moms bible study, with one other girl (had abt 6-8 kids), basically we played with them for 2hrs so the moms could have peace and quiet 2 doors down - at that age i'd expect her to be able to keep the boys occupied for 2hrs, with popping in for help as needed to solve problems, and feed a simple snack that you have prepared or available (ie, handful animal crackers, or cut fruit).
AFA $ i know it varies from area to area, i made ~2.50/hr as a mothers helper. (varied a bit sometimes. all the moms chipped in so if there were less kids we got less money lol)
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Old 04-30-2012, 06:08 AM   #7
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I would. I'm actually looking for a mothers helper around that age right now. It's kinda perfect because they don't have the expectation of a high hourly rate T that age. In fact, the two 12 yr old girls I hired in the past wouldn't take 5/hr and neither would their mothers. They would give me half the money back.
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Old 04-30-2012, 06:12 AM   #8
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Default Re: Would you hire a newly-12 yr old.

Yep, what the other mamas said.

I have hired 11 and 12 year olds as mother's helpers before. I usually paid $5 an hour and just have them play with the kid(s). I will change diapers, get snacks, deal with the potty, etc. It is a huge help.

(Now I pay ds to do it )
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I have. I paid her $5 plus whatever food she wanted.
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Old 04-30-2012, 06:30 AM   #10
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Oh yes if it is someone who loves playing with kids like that.My dd started being a MH when she ws 10 and is now 13 and is starting to lose interest.still loves kids and babies but has other things going on. she has been paid 5.00/hr by one mom and anothr she had a trade - mom was a jewelry makr and would let her choose a pair of earrings for so many hrs of MHing
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Old 04-30-2012, 06:35 AM   #11
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Thanks. I wouldn't expect her to change diapers or discipline.

I might be able to swing $5 an hour. That sounds better than the $9 a babysitter around here gets.

Oh, and I do hire Cias to watch him sometimes, but there's that whole brother dynamic, where it's just brothers fighting, etc. and then C decides he doesn't want to anymore and goes off to play video games and stuff.
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I had a 9-yo mother's helper who rocked my socks off She was AMAZING though and I mostly stayed in earshot but didn't need to. She was responsible enough to take him outside unsupervised or be left completely alone with him for short periods, but I never let her.

She would ask to come over and play with DS though- I only paid her when I asked her to come over. She would either get 5 bucks or a trip out for ice cream, depending on if we had cash or not.
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I guess it depends on the kid. If the 12 yo clicked with my child(ren) and seemed capable, yeah, in a heartbeat. My best mother's helper is my 11 yo dd. She just has a gift with babies and little ones. She is soft spoken, patient, and just cues into what is going on, etc. Her OLDER sis is more gifted in other areas. So yeah, ... that is my take on it. I don't know what the going rate is for compensation though.
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12yo is a great age for a MH! I hired one a couple times last summer and it was the best thing ever! For ~$5/hr, she played w/ the kids (inside) and kept them occupied so I could get work done uninterrupted.
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I have a ten year old mothers helper who is fantastic. Sweet to my kids, helpful and fun. I pay her $4 an hour.
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