Random Quotes from Wise Mamas |
br>
04-03-2014, 05:13 PM | #16 |
Administrator
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Oklahoma
Posts: 16,669
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
I've always felt like I was alone with this problem and I should have known there is a whole sisterhood out there.
KarenBoo, I like the sentiment of the blog post quite a bit. I need to process more before I can respond to anything else, but I'm so grateful for all of your observations.
__________________
CHARLA Married to Nick, 31 yrs Mom to Nathan and his wife Abby, and Hope Elizabeth, dancing for eternity with babies: Micah Noel, Grace Anna, Andrew David Save Save Save Save Save
|
The Following User Says Thank You to charla For This Useful Post: | KarenBoo (04-03-2014) |
04-03-2014, 07:36 PM | #17 |
Rose Garden
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 16,750
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
Yes, the House that Cleans Itself has helped me so much. I hate that I've been a perfectionist.
It's nice to have people over.
__________________
ENFp Wife who is thankful to be in love....17 years Homeschooling Mom of three....15 DD dancer and 12 DS mountain biker and 5 DD calico critter and dolly mommy 12/2014 8/2015 11/2015 9/2016 |
The Following User Says Thank You to ECingMama For This Useful Post: | charla (04-03-2014) |
04-03-2014, 09:40 PM | #18 | |
Rose Trellis
fka Sweetbelly :)
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Tomball, Texas
Posts: 1,502
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
Quote:
__________________
Kammy-
Wifey to my always thinking, sarcastic, librarian, INFJ hubby. (10/2007) "So, I've been thinking..." Loving mama to my energetic, compassionate, and BIG feelings having ds "I" (01/2009) "You're going to be okay, little plant." and my easy-going though slightly demanding, tough bulldozer, ds "H". (09/2011) "Hey! Hey! HEEEY!" I'm blogging! |
|
The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to LikeQuietDreams For This Useful Post: |
04-07-2014, 02:10 PM | #19 |
Rose Bouquet
Join Date: Jun 2007
Posts: 750
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
My standard to have guests over is ridiculous. Even once people are here, I will go fix something I forgot, like wipe down a lightswitch. For other people's houses, I don't care much as long as I can breathe (cat allergy and sensitive to odors). If you are offering me food, I do hope the kitchen appears sanitary and I do notice whether you wash your hands before dealing with food.
I want to know why we all can't keep our homes clean regularly? I have such a problem with day to day stuff, but growing up we went in and out of so many houses with no notice and everyone's house was Always clean! Not necessarily perfect, but definitely clean and uncluttered. Do we just have too much stuff now? Or too many screens to keep us from basic housekeeping? What is it, do you think?
__________________
DS 10 DD 7 north Phoenix |
04-07-2014, 03:20 PM | #20 | |
Rose Garden
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 16,750
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
Quote:
House that Cleans Itself helped me figure out a system that works for *me.* So thrilled!
__________________
ENFp Wife who is thankful to be in love....17 years Homeschooling Mom of three....15 DD dancer and 12 DS mountain biker and 5 DD calico critter and dolly mommy 12/2014 8/2015 11/2015 9/2016 |
|
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to ECingMama For This Useful Post: | charla (04-07-2014), jandjmommy (04-07-2014) |
04-07-2014, 04:00 PM | #21 | |
Rose Bouquet
Join Date: Jun 2007
Posts: 750
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
Quote:
__________________
DS 10 DD 7 north Phoenix |
|
The Following User Says Thank You to jandjmommy For This Useful Post: | charla (04-07-2014) |
04-07-2014, 04:08 PM | #22 | |
Rose Garden
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 16,750
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
Quote:
I make sure my house is spotless if people are coming over....I don't have any friends where I'd just drop by....but I am looking forward to that era!
__________________
ENFp Wife who is thankful to be in love....17 years Homeschooling Mom of three....15 DD dancer and 12 DS mountain biker and 5 DD calico critter and dolly mommy 12/2014 8/2015 11/2015 9/2016 |
|
The Following User Says Thank You to ECingMama For This Useful Post: | charla (04-07-2014) |
04-07-2014, 04:37 PM | #23 |
Rose Garden
Butterfly on my face :)
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Louisiana
Posts: 6,955
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
My DH's aunt was in town and wanted to stop in to see us. I spent most of the day hoping she would change her mind about coming but tidied a bit here and there. I was also in the mid to late stages of pregnancy and oh.so.tired with my first boy. When she said she was on her way over, I ran the vacuum cleaner and picked up more stuff. I was exhausted. She arrived and walked in and I kept cleaning even while she was there. (House was much more unkept than I liked because I had already been to the ER for a hemorrhage during the pregnancy and my DH wanted me to take it very easy for the rest of the pregnancy though he was working crazy overtime and couldn't help with the cleaning). DH's aunt begged me to sit down and stop cleaning. She said, "I didn't come to visit your house, I came to visit you." She then told me how when she was a single mom, she lived in the projects with a mattress in the living room where she slept with her kids. She told me how blessed I was to have the house that I had. It definitely made me reflect and relax my standards a bit.
Posted via Mobile Device |
The Following 11 Users Say Thank You to mommychem For This Useful Post: | charla (04-07-2014), DahliaRW (04-07-2014), ECingMama (04-07-2014), LikeQuietDreams (04-07-2014), lucie (04-07-2014), MaybeGracie (04-08-2014), RiverRock (04-22-2014), SamRose (04-07-2014), sweetpeas (04-07-2014), Tasmanian Saint (04-07-2014), Virginia (04-14-2014) |
04-07-2014, 10:21 PM | #24 |
Seedling Rose
Join Date: Sep 2013
Posts: 11
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
Tell me more about this House That Cleans Itself. I'm intrigued!
Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
04-08-2014, 07:58 AM | #25 | |
Rose Trellis
fka Sweetbelly :)
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: Tomball, Texas
Posts: 1,502
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
Quote:
http://www.amazon.com/House-That-Cle...+cleans+itself
__________________
Kammy-
Wifey to my always thinking, sarcastic, librarian, INFJ hubby. (10/2007) "So, I've been thinking..." Loving mama to my energetic, compassionate, and BIG feelings having ds "I" (01/2009) "You're going to be okay, little plant." and my easy-going though slightly demanding, tough bulldozer, ds "H". (09/2011) "Hey! Hey! HEEEY!" I'm blogging! |
|
04-08-2014, 08:19 AM | #26 |
Rose Bush
Join Date: Jul 2013
Posts: 487
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
My house is always clean-ish. I used to be absolutely petrified of people coming over and it used to really stress me out. I never knew other people noticed, until DH let it slip that one of our friends was visiting. She told him not to tell me because she knows how I stressed about the house being spotless. And apparently she was not the only friend / family member who did this.
It changed me a lot. Now I clean for us because we are worthy of having a clean house. Not that I've every lived in a messy house, it has always been picke up, dishes washed, and bathroom has always been spotless. If people drop by, that's fine. I don't lift a finger to clean anything. This is authentically us. We enjoy our house, We enjoy our things. We look after our things. And I am blessed to have family and friends who want to visit. If they have a bad impression, that's on them, but I am at peace that I am dong the best I can for my family. If that means, the washer is leaking water all over the floor (again!) and my daughter is happily playing in it, so be it!
__________________
Phoenix (Aug 2012) Griffin (May 2015) Hymnsong (April 2018) |
04-13-2014, 07:49 PM | #27 |
Rose Trellis
Join Date: Jan 2006
Posts: 2,895
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
That sounds reasonable to me, and what I like having done before official guests. Sometimes my neighbor comes over unannounced, but she's got 4 kids under 6, so she totally understands!
__________________
INFJ/INTJ DYT 4 Wife to Alan, Mama to Abby 3/05, Ella 2/08, and Julianna 10/10 “Only the weak are cruel. Gentleness can only be expected from the strong.” Leo Buscaglia |
The Following User Says Thank You to mommy2abigail For This Useful Post: | charla (04-14-2014) |
04-14-2014, 05:51 PM | #28 |
Climbing Rose
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Illinois
Posts: 1,126
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
I try. I'm not a housekeeper though. For most people, my standard is no clothes lying around, few if any toys in the middle of the room (they may be kicked right to the side...), and the bathroom quick wiped down with vinegar spray. My best friend doesn't get that much , but then she comes in without calling/knocking too.
I used to be petrified to invite people over because my house is SO not magazine worthy, but I've come to value the fellowship more than making a good impression It's been freeing.
__________________
Jenny Wife to the Gymnast (August '08) Mama to Boo (May '11) Gabi Sunshine: Blogging sewing and creative play |
The Following User Says Thank You to peekaboomama For This Useful Post: | charla (04-14-2014) |
04-14-2014, 06:00 PM | #29 |
Rose Garden
Don't mind my faces. They usually don't mean anything.
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Virginia
Posts: 8,644
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
We live out of the way, so we don't get many visitors When someone is coming to visit, even family, I want the house spotless
But...I think I'm a little different than you guys If I go over to someone's house, I totally notice if it's dirty. I don't necessarily judge them or anything, but I definitely see the cobwebs in the corner, the dust on top of the ceiling fan blades, etc. I don't mean to It just happens
__________________
Christine WAHM as writer/editor; part-time high school teacher; wife to pharmacist DH since 7.31.2010 Lila in heaven, 8/2015 DD1 "KO" born 8/2017 DD2 GIRL born 1/2020 |
The Following User Says Thank You to Virginia For This Useful Post: | charla (04-14-2014) |
04-14-2014, 06:25 PM | #30 | |
Rose Garden
Striving to be a gentle mama and enjoying my littles.
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Virginia
Posts: 7,696
|
Re: House cleanliness standard for hospitality
Quote:
I struggle with this. I'm not a great housekeeper and it bothers me a lot. I always freak out about cleaning when someone comes over. I worry about what they think of me. But I think I need to just relax because I am a mother who can't do it all and I have three boys and a husband who pee on the floor sometimes. .
__________________
*Kara* Sharing life with a special man Mama to J - 11, J - 9, & A - 5 & Two angels 9/2007 & 1/2008
|
|
Bookmarks |
|
|
X vBulletin 3.8.3 Debug Information | |
---|---|
|
|
More Information | |
Template Usage:
Phrase Groups Available:
|
Included Files:
Hooks Called:
|