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Old 05-14-2019, 01:42 PM   #1
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Default "How do you discipline your child?"

When you take a child to a mental health provider, sometimes also just the pediatrician though then it's not as in depth, they ask "how do you discipline your child? What works/doesn't work?" Even worse, it's often on a form. I never know how to answer this question. Since it's for a mental health provider, they want more than just "I don't spank". That response is fine for the pediatrician, she's always visibly relieved when I assure her we don't do that and then she moves on. But the therapists want more information and now I'm looking at a form for a psychiatrist with this question and I can't think of something succinct that says what we do. "teaching, practicing, making amends"? How do you answer this? We don't spank or do a traditional time-out but we do discipline and require a level of cooperation and obedience (though we don't use that word often) so I have a hard time communicating that.
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Are there any modern “buzz words” that would convey your discipline techniques without being too cumbersome?
Attachment parenting
Respectful parenting
Responsive parenting
Parenting with an emphasis on emotional regulation, awareness, and intelligence
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Old 05-14-2019, 01:49 PM   #3
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Default Re: "How do you discipline your child?"

When I first answered attachment and gentle parenting, I was asked what that was, so I haven't used it again. I've just always kinda floundered and said a whole bunch of things I would love some buzzwords that would mean something to the psychiatrist.
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Logical consequences is what I would say personally.
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Default Re: "How do you discipline your child?"

Positive discipline
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We say positive discipline
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I say "positive parenting, using logical or natural consequences as needed."
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I'd be tempted to say "pretty well, if I say so myself"
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When I first answered attachment and gentle parenting, I was asked what that was, so I haven't used it again. I've just always kinda floundered and said a whole bunch of things I would love some buzzwords that would mean something to the psychiatrist.


Um that’s really weird to me because attachment theory should be very well known to psychiatrists... hmm...


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It may be that lots of people use those terms to mean very different things.
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It may be that lots of people use those terms to mean very different things.
I think that's the issue, the term can be vague, and there are "levels" to it. I like positive parenting, with natural or logical consequences. I think that would give someone an idea
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I put “logical/natural consequences” on a form for my son’s then Kindergarten teacher.
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If the therapist really does not know what attachment parenting is maybe you could advise him a good book to read about it.
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Firm boundaries on non negotiable issues, which we try to keep to a minimum.

Discussion and trying to come to mutual agreement on the rest.

Natural and logical consequences.
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