What do you say? How do you explain it? We should have a script! - Page 2

marigold · 04-18-2012, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Mokek Kwe

edited- something weird happened and I accidentally posted here! oops!

It might have been a mistake but I've enjoyed this thread so thanks

Tasmanian Saint · 04-25-2012, 05:29 AM

Me, too.

We were involved a study on preschoolers eating, exercise and weight. There was a whole section in one of the surveys asking all these questions about when we punish our kids - either trying to figure out how consistent we are in our discipline or else how strict and punitive we are about our kids' eating. Since I didn't know what they were trying to find out, I didn't know how to answer - should I respond as if the word 'punishment' meant 'discipline', or should I just put 'never' for all the answers? So I crossed it out and wrote "We use a positive, non-punitive discipline style." and wrote the link to GOYB Parenting website.

MomtoJGJ · 04-25-2012, 06:13 AM

I pretty much avoid it... but I'm finding as my kids get older, it really comes up less.

Also, as they get older it really becomes easier to follow along with 2 Timothy 3:16, so I'm really trying to figure out a way to say what we do in line with that "All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness..." I do use Bible verses they've learned and relate it to what they are doing, and ask them honestly what they think. Like not in a forced, give me the Sunday School answer way, but an honest, "let's think about this" way. Especially with the older two since they've professed Christ.

That's another thing I'm working on... somehow connecting their salvation with the fact that I'm just there to guide them now (because you have the people who think that parents are responsible for their children's salvation...) and God/Holy Spirit are there to convict them. They no longer need punishments.

I haven't figured all that out though... and I do still mess up from time to time, especially with my oldest.

CelticJourney · 04-26-2012, 04:06 AM

I've had flustered moments and just said 'oh, I can't think straight right now, here is the web site address for GCM......'

04-25-2012, 05:29 AM	#17
Tasmanian Saint Rose Trellis Go Team Lioness! Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: This side of the black stump Posts: 2,428	Re: What do you say? How do you explain it? We should have a script! Me, too. We were involved a study on preschoolers eating, exercise and weight. There was a whole section in one of the surveys asking all these questions about when we punish our kids - either trying to figure out how consistent we are in our discipline or else how strict and punitive we are about our kids' eating. Since I didn't know what they were trying to find out, I didn't know how to answer - should I respond as if the word 'punishment' meant 'discipline', or should I just put 'never' for all the answers? So I crossed it out and wrote "We use a positive, non-punitive discipline style." and wrote the link to GOYB Parenting website. __________________ Our blossoms: DS "Little Bear" Apr '07 - The negotiator DD "Miss Muffett" Nov '08 "Don't tell Daddy..." DS "Mouse" Jan '12 "I Soup Baby, Man of steel! " Myth Busting over at Dare to Disciple "Believe in yourself. Trust your instincts. Unless your instincts are terrible." Vitruvius, The LEGO Movie.

04-25-2012, 06:13 AM	#18
MomtoJGJ Deactivated Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 11,787	Re: What do you say? How do you explain it? We should have a script! I pretty much avoid it... but I'm finding as my kids get older, it really comes up less. Also, as they get older it really becomes easier to follow along with 2 Timothy 3:16, so I'm really trying to figure out a way to say what we do in line with that "All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness..." I do use Bible verses they've learned and relate it to what they are doing, and ask them honestly what they think. Like not in a forced, give me the Sunday School answer way, but an honest, "let's think about this" way. Especially with the older two since they've professed Christ. That's another thing I'm working on... somehow connecting their salvation with the fact that I'm just there to guide them now (because you have the people who think that parents are responsible for their children's salvation...) and God/Holy Spirit are there to convict them. They no longer need punishments. I haven't figured all that out though... and I do still mess up from time to time, especially with my oldest.

04-26-2012, 04:06 AM	#19
CelticJourney Administrator Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 34,567	Re: What do you say? How do you explain it? We should have a script! I've had flustered moments and just said 'oh, I can't think straight right now, here is the web site address for GCM......' __________________ Elizabeth "Truth without love is divisive and hurtful & love without truth is anemic"--Pastor Estep Arise, cry out in the night...pour out your heart like water in the presence of the Lord; Lift up your hands to him for the lives of your children..; Lamentations 2:19

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