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11-22-2011, 09:08 PM | #226 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Silly as it may be, I got the idea from a friend to just break out singing the fruits of the Spirit when I feel the anger rising and the yelling wanting to come out... "Love, joy, peace, and patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-contro-o-ol..." It actually really helps. It reminds me to be all those things instead of angry and yelling, and it distracts the kids just long enough to halt whatever they were doing that was so getting to me. Then I find I have gained control of myself and can see the conflict for what is, a teachable moment, and take advantage of that opportunity. Simple, but effective many times!
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11-23-2011, 06:48 AM | #227 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
I yelled pretty badly last night Lydia was throwing another HUGE fit. I have been sick and she's entertained herself for the most part. She was fighting bedtime and I yelled. She's had three massive fits this week. I stopped halfway through and said I was sorry and helped her calm down then we prayed together.
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11-23-2011, 08:35 AM | #228 | |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
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that is an excellent way for me to reset my mind and to remember to pray instead of yelling / giving in to my anger
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11-23-2011, 10:55 AM | #229 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
a little more ScreamFree food for thought, especially in preparation for tomorrow's holiday (here in the US, anyway )
Learn the Power of Pause. No matter how well you plan ahead, assume a positive attitude and acquire a sensible perspective. Anything can go awry. Learning to take a few deep breaths in the midst of a debacle opens a world of opportunities for you to grow and, in the process, teach others—especially children—invaluable lessons. Instead of becoming reactive and hastily assuming the worst when problems arise, simply pause. Creating a pause unlocks your creativity. You may even become regarded as your family’s steady resource and a breath of fresh air. Excerpted from “A ScreamFree Guide to Holiday Meals” by Hal Runkel. Happy Thanksgiving to all my sweet GCM mama friends
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11-23-2011, 09:33 PM | #230 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Subbing because i too am a yeller! I need this support. I have to go to sleep now so i "might" not yell as much tomorrow. It is thanksgiving so i am going to be on my best behavior
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11-29-2011, 07:24 AM | #231 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
having a rough day . . .
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11-29-2011, 09:43 AM | #232 |
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11-29-2011, 01:00 PM | #233 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
thank you
it's a bit better, but it's been a rough up and down ride today sometimes it seems like the times a pray, the harder it is to maintain a scream-free, gentle attitude. that whole thing about asking God to give you patience and he gives you opportunities to develop it
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11-29-2011, 01:44 PM | #234 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Late to this thread....hope I can be here...
Thanks to this forum I didn't yell in a while but on Monday I was so so so ready to scream and felt like not yelling would make me explode seriously or something. Taking deep breath and wait for a minute didn't help at all and even many seconds later I still wanted to scream and rough-handle him.Wait few more seconds. Still angry. But somehow eventually it passed into oblivion and then life was full of compassion for poor young mind again...Phew...but very hard work to restrain!! Definitely a habit training...so worth it.
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11-29-2011, 02:41 PM | #235 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
I have a fractured leg in a boot, and it's hard to get around. Horrible AF 1st day symptoms and the house was AWEFUL and people were coming over. Guess what I did... yep. yelled at the kids. Doesn't even seem to phase them, but that's even sadder. |
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11-29-2011, 05:14 PM | #236 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
It makes us more upset that they still aren't taking our feelings into consideration, but I don't think it's sadder. It's when kids know yelling leads to them being hurt that's sad. Of course they'll take our feelings into consideration faster then (placating), but it's not out of more caring FOR us.
And that applies to the no spanking in anger crowd, too. I know how it goes down because I'm from that. It just means they'll put on a calm face before spanking. It doesn't mean yelling and getting spanked aren't associated.
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11-29-2011, 07:58 PM | #237 | |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
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Many times when I feel that must-yell-or-I-will-explode feeling I tell myself that *just* for now I will not yell. I don't think about how I will NEVER yell again (that intensifies the explode feelings) but chose NOT to yell this time. When you think about it as a per-incident issue, it is much easier to chose not to yell.
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11-30-2011, 09:06 AM | #238 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Rough morning... Massive fit... Sick baby = no sleep at night = harder time not to yell when DS is all about "no". I feel so bad and sorry, I'm the adult, I shouldn't yell. I dug out a bracelet we made at mops with different stones, each representing one, and it helps me to look at it to remind me to be patient and loving. I think DS knows how to push my buttons, but I shouldn't react. It's so tough sometimes.
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11-30-2011, 09:13 AM | #239 | |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
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If you can't - a bath usually works wonders. And with our without water in the tub: shaving cream and a squirt of washable paint; spaghetti with red sauce; jello; pudding; oatmeal; etc.
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