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Old 03-12-2012, 06:49 AM   #1
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Unhappy Hate to cause conflict with my church ladies.

I knew some of my mom friends at church used a schedule and have never said a word about it. But I posted the aap recomendation on facebook lastnight along with my well researched opinion and a few of the ladies commented or messaged me saying they are pretty offended I would post that link and that THEIR children did great and it was a life saver for their family. And I had one that said I should remove the offensive picture with the aap recomendations. I told them that I didn't mean to offend anyone but that after nearly 15 years of researching this issue and now that I am going to college for child development/psychology it's the one parenting topic that I choose to speak out about because it personally affected me and my family. I don't want to lose friends over this but I don't plan to remove it from my page either. But still for this peace lovin' mama it's hard to know that people are upset with me.
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Old 03-12-2012, 06:53 AM   #2
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Old 03-12-2012, 07:00 AM   #3
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Default Re: Hate to cause conflict with my church ladies.

I'm sorry they're upset with you.

IMO, if you had posted it on THEIR wall, maybe they could be offended, but you posted it on YOUR wall, and they are free to skim right past it if it doesn't appeal to them, ykwim? I think people need to stop cultivating a "spirit of offense" and not feel like they have to police what you post on your wall.

That said, I totally understand how conflict sucks for those of us who are sensitive to it, and I hope it blows over quickly.
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Default Re: Hate to cause conflict with my church ladies.

Sorry you're dealing with this. FB is such a double sided thing. IRT someoen suggesting you "should" do something. I've said more than once to people who make such comments to me "Please do not "should" me. Thank you." And leave it at that. As for their offense, it is their choice. And, yes it is a choice to be offended. It isn't like you posted something from an alternative minded source. It is a mainstream organization.
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Old 03-12-2012, 07:58 AM   #5
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People told you to take it down off YOUR wall? Whoa.
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Default Re: Hate to cause conflict with my church ladies.

They can hide that individual story if it offends them so bad. You don't have to do a thing.
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Old 03-13-2012, 06:54 PM   #7
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And you can also block them from that post.
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Default Re: Hate to cause conflict with my church ladies.

My heart goes out to you. I am SO non-confrontational. I remember teaching a Sunday School class to the 8-10 year olds one week, where the "lesson" was "stand up for what's right." I was quite convicted about that--here I was telling 8 year olds to do something that I frequently fail at.

Anyways, you had your "stand up for what's right" moment.

I'm sure you were tactful and appropriate. Your church friends will get over it, and after the bluster, maybe they'll think.

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