Reasons I yell ---> troubleshooting

[tempus vernum]

For me it is frustration and exhaustion 90% of the time. I find that the more I say "I'm getting angry", the less likely I will blow I am a person that bottles my emotions and I"m working hard to let it go.

I listen to "Let It Go" multiple times a day and now my kids use just dance 2015 which has "Let it GO" on it and that's helped My friend that does reiki on me told me to visualize a bubble around me and let things bounce off me. She also told me to listen to Let It GO.

Those two things have been very very powerful

[Allison]

I just wrote a post about this a couple of weeks ago. I used to struggle with yelling so much. A few weeks ago I suddenly realized, "Hey! I haven't yelled in a couple years!"

Here's the post with all of my tips for how I stopped yelling and some other suggestions that might work for you: http://www.oursmallhours.com/how-to-...-at-your-kids/

[tempus vernum]

Originally Posted by Allison

I just wrote a post about this a couple of weeks ago. I used to struggle with yelling so much. A few weeks ago I suddenly realized, "Hey! I haven't yelled in a couple years!"

Here's the post with all of my tips for how I stopped yelling and some other suggestions that might work for you: http://www.oursmallhours.com/how-to-...-at-your-kids/

I know this is an old thread but I came to this forum and searched on anger.

This post you did Allison is really really helpful Very concise and positive I am printing it and making it into a wall reminder. I am also going to start working through ETLDTD. . . again.

I have had a lot of emotional stress from outside sources and find myself yelling a lot the past two weeks.
I need to get a grip.

[ThreeKids]

A louder voice can be used as a tool to allow people to hear you despite other obstacles (distance, other things drawing their attention).

As an expression of anger, a louder voice starts becoming about forcing others to listen to you. It's possible for yelling to be an expression of anger alone, but when the triggering issue is not being able to get someone to listen, it's nearly impossible not to cross into casting a mental curse on them that they won't be able to ignore you unless you're already walking away and giving up.

By focusing on a louder voice as something in my toolbox, I can think more about the toolbox and the obstacles and what might be the right tool to apply. Often, I do need to simply get between the child and the distraction to capture the eyes. My kids have come to see me pausing a video before speaking as a tool because I've been able to not associate that action with anger over a long period of time. And then the louder voice can be one more tool when the background noise is just too high.

Having lost my voice for so many months I thought it might be permanent certainly added some zen to my devotion to intercepting kids' attention in other ways.

so glad for this thread! yelling is something I struggled with when I was a single mom of one. after I got saved, I drastically changed in so many ways (including that) but as I added to my brood and they have gotten older, I have realized I've turned back into a yeller. I don't want my kids to look back and remember their childhood as mom being an angry yelling presence. thanks for all the feedback. hopefully reviving the thread will get even more?