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11-08-2011, 05:24 PM | #106 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
This thread has already made a difference for me. It keeps me accountable, and when I'm tempted to yell, I think, "No! I wouldn't want to write that I yelled on GCM!" and I stop. Hey, whatever works, works.
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11-08-2011, 06:10 PM | #107 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
i cried when i found this thread a few minutes ago. oh ladies...if you only knew
my ds is 3 1/2 and i think that because i have yelled and belittled him SO. MUCH. that it's causing him to have some really evident speech issues. it's breaking my heart...and it's completely my fault he is SO imaginative and SO talkative...and between mumbling weirdly or saying all of his sentences literally backwards or completely mixed up (like...way more than "normal" for a 3yo) i am just heartbroken and i think i am less of a yeller with my dd who turns 2 next week...but this HAS to stop. it's terrible. my poor little boy and the yelling and belittling and impatience and rage i got from both my parents: the belittling and impatience i got from my mom and the yelling from both parents. anyhow, thanks for making this thread. i'll go back and read all of the posts now
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11-08-2011, 08:24 PM | #108 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
I made it a full day with out yelling!!!
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11-08-2011, 08:55 PM | #109 |
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Thank you for this thread. I have to come back to it when I have a bit more time. This pregnancy has made my patience short and I know I have work to do with yelling.
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11-08-2011, 09:23 PM | #110 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
I've found myself yelling a couple times over the weekend, but today I was able to reign it solely because of this thread. I found that the pent up big emotions that I thought needed to be released in some way somehow dissipated with the satisfaction that I didn't yell at my children and was replaced with an overwhelming sense of accomplishment and rightness and love toward my precious children.
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11-08-2011, 09:34 PM | #111 |
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Today was just so much better! I only yelled a couple times today. I was just trying to be purposeful. I need to go review the five rules and try to see if I can implement them a bit tomorrow. Now that I'm paying more attention to myself all my inconsistencies are really showing. I have a long way to go. But I do have hope now, thanks to you ladies and your encouragement!
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11-08-2011, 09:55 PM | #112 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
Oh man, how did I miss this. I'm a yeller. A screamer even sometimes Ehh.
The thing that sets me off the most is when I'm trying to concentrate on some remedial task and DS is all over me. He can play quietly in his room for nearly an hour, but the minute I'm washing a dish, hanging a coat, you name it, voila, there he is, clinging. on. my. leg He's just being 2, I know it. But sometimes I just want to scream. and I do
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11-09-2011, 06:02 AM | #113 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
I yelled last night (Zac's whining is driving me NUTS!) and this morning (Milan made a mess).
A while ago, I told Zac that he could tell me "Don't yell mommy" when I do and I explained that it helps me to do it less. He tells me almost every time. Last night he said, "Mom, you need to have more patience with me." "You're absolutely right sweetie." I will get there.
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11-09-2011, 09:21 AM | #114 | |
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11-09-2011, 01:54 PM | #115 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
A big trigger for me is when we're running late. But it's usually my fault. I try to get so much done before we leave that I'm really pushing the envelope. I should be telling them to clean up and get their shoes fifteen minutes before we need to be pulling out of the driveway, not three minutes before.
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11-09-2011, 02:13 PM | #116 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
The baby is not napping. I need the break. She's laying in her bed, not crying, so that's good, but I still feel tense. I've already laid down with her for an hour.
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11-09-2011, 03:08 PM | #117 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
I'm tired. My children are REALLY tired. We're coming into summer and it's hot hot hot and they can't sleep and they are grumpy and hair trigger sensitive and I'm sick of dealing with irrational small people.
If I can get through today without yelling I will consider that an achievement, even if nothing productive gets done.
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11-09-2011, 04:46 PM | #118 | |
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11-09-2011, 04:55 PM | #119 |
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Re: Yelling Support Thread
So far. so good. But we still have homework, dinner and church. Big, huge triggers for me right there. The kids are outside running off some energy, so hopefully homework will go smoothly. It's easy today, so I have high hopes.
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