You know, one thing that helped me was to reframe "giving in" to "reconsidering my options." I mean, we do that all the time with our families. Plans change, that doesn't mean we're giving in, it means things have changed due to circumstances. Hope that makes sense.
There's times to hold your ground, but there's also times when it makes better sense "reconsidering our options."
I tend to go punitive-minded really quickly, so ITU.