Gentle Christian Mothers Community - View Single Post - Enforcing (or not!) House Rules

HuggaBuggaMommy · 09-28-2007, 08:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Chris3jam

I wouldn't give him that third chance. He is pushing the boundaries. He knows he can "get away with it" 3 times. So, I would change the rule, since he knows that the mouthiness is wrong, and the first time he mouths off, he goes to his room.

See, this would be my natural inclination - and I would have not problem doing this - but it seems to go against GBD, and I was afraid that course of action was too punitive

I'm trying to model respectful behavior and help him learn to think before he speaks, and to use kind words even if he doesn't like what's being asked of him. But, maybe now that he's 6, it's okay not to give another chance???

And what if, after the first time he mouths off, I tell him to go upstairs and he says, "I'm sorry, I'll stop being disrespectful." His behavior has changed - do I still enforce the boundary? Is it punitive to do so?

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