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For my oldest, I've noticed "defiance" during stress times and age changes. I think the age changes may be a hormonal shift.

When she feels out of control, she becomes oppositional and fights me for control over everything going on in our home. We keep our boundaries but make space for extra choice making for her during those times. We try to allow her to feel more in control without becoming permissive and losing all boundaries. We reasses some of them to make sure they're necessary. Mostly we just wait the phase out.

__________________

I'm Megan (ENFP, DYT Type 1)

Married since 2007 to my Apple-geeky artist

Don (INTJ)
Mommy to Lydia

(1/08) "Nature is really dirty"
Charlotte

(7/10) "me am not chawlotte me are batman"
Introducing Nolan January 11, 2014

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06-09-2012, 03:27 AM	#8
Tandem mama Rose Garden In my world everyone's a pony Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Where everyone eats rainbows and poops butterflies Posts: 11,743	Re: I need to say a few things about the idea of defiance For my oldest, I've noticed "defiance" during stress times and age changes. I think the age changes may be a hormonal shift. When she feels out of control, she becomes oppositional and fights me for control over everything going on in our home. We keep our boundaries but make space for extra choice making for her during those times. We try to allow her to feel more in control without becoming permissive and losing all boundaries. We reasses some of them to make sure they're necessary. Mostly we just wait the phase out. __________________ I'm Megan (ENFP, DYT Type 1) Married since 2007 to my Apple-geeky artist Don (INTJ) Mommy to Lydia (1/08) "Nature is really dirty" Charlotte (7/10) "me am not chawlotte me are batman" Introducing Nolan January 11, 2014

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