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Old 04-05-2012, 05:55 PM   #1
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Default 3 under 3?

For anyone that has (or will have) 3 under 3, what made you decide on this? What factors did you think about to come to your final decision? I know i must be crazy because DS2 is only 7 weeks old, but I am particularly fond of the age gap (17 months). Which surprises me, because even though we planned it that way (close in age),I was freaked out during my entire pregnancy with Elliot about having 2 kids. But now that he is here...i wouldn't change it! In fact i think it was harder transitioning from 1 child to 2...but now im thinking about the practicalities of it all....for instance, what about the car? We are a one car family and a one income family, so getting a second car is not an option. but our current car only holds two carseats....or what about grocery shopping or going out on your own with the kids? I babywear ALOT (always have). As it stands know my Isaiah will either sit in the cart or the stroller while I wear Elliot. If im with DH then we each babywear...but what about adding 3 into the mix? How do you get out and about with 3...especially if your oldest is crazy active and always wanting to run off everywhere plus is strong willed? How does it all work?

So im just looking for experiences, advice, ideas, just anything
Before the birth of Elliot we were dead set, not having more children for another 5 years..but now that he is here, it almost seems like it wouldn't make sense for us to wait, especially if we have a girl this time, then she would be our last (unless of course the Lord decides to bless us with a surprise...or i change my mind ), but anyways, if we only end up having 3 then i wouldn't want #3 to feel left out because the older two are so close in age and such.

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Evening ladies, Im back!

So DS2 is almost 7 months old. We are still BFing . DH and I decided to wait until Jan 2014 to TTC #3 (which would put about a 3ish year age gap between #2 and #3). I was happy about our choice, however, i am now faced with a new dilemma. ...i should have prefaced by saying, that i honestly got scared off having 3 under 3. , but now i am back because of a change in circumstances.

As it turns out, i have severe bladder and rectal prolapse. Ive had a lot of symptoms and its really affecting things. Ive seen 2 doctors about this (one was an OBGYN the other was my family doctor- Im going to be meeting with a specialist soon). But anyways, they tell me i have at least a 3rd degree prolapse and it will def require surgery to fix. I can try the pessary device, however, its highly unlikely to work bc of the degree of the prolapse. I am still going to try it though, but anyways, they wont do the surgery until I am done having kids. (Im only 24). We decided that we are only going to have 3 babies, and when i told the doc that we want one more and when we plan on TTC, i was basically advised that I should have the last one sooner, rather than later. Ive been getting UTIs, cant drain my bladder, in discomfort all of the time, cant pass stoles, etc etc. Its pretty bad....but now this just throws a wrench into the mix because i dont know what to do. Im scared of having 3 under 3, and plus im still BFing. I just dont know what to do about it. I think in the long run, 3 under 3 will be easier (when they get older), but initially is what i am worried about. The reason why they are advising having the last one sooner is because i cant get the problem fixed until then.


i have prayed about this, but i dont seem to be hearing Him very well. Part of me thinks we should just NTNP and whatever happens was Gods plan, but I dont really know if thats accurate and im just feeling SO on the fence about waiting or if i should not wait.

what would you do in this situation? DH says he doesn't care either way...and recently he has had this "lets just have one and get it over with" attitude.

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