I need GCM so much in my life

Amahoro · 05-06-2012, 04:52 AM

I sometimes lose time to read through GCM, because it's just so big and each day there's like 20+ pages of new threads to read. So I leave it alone and only get back once a week or something.

But after a day of being the lone voice advocating gentle practices when it comes to sleep; speaking out against a woman who charges $3600 for sleep training babies 6 months old and over (3 days in your house, no eye contact, no cuddles, no comfort, no interaction whatsoever so they get 'tough loved' into sleep); being told I need to have a 'bad' sleeper so I know what a load of you-know-what my gentle ideas are (not that they have a single clue about how my child's sleep has been lately!); I was just so worn down and feeling like I was the only person with these beliefs on parenting and children.

Coming back to GCM has made me feel normal once more. People understand my perspective and feel the same way. People can see the risks of sleep training like that and don't think it's 'the latest way to make mums feel guilty', etc etc.

I just needed to be back here with my 'tribe'; where I'm the normal one again. I've felt so alone and like a 'freak' all day.

Thank you for all you do here, ladies - it gives me a chance to recharge into the parent I want to be and get the support I need.

MercyInDisguise · 05-06-2012, 05:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Amahoro

speaking out against a woman who charges $3600 for sleep training babies 6 months old and over (3 days in your house, no eye contact, no cuddles, no comfort, no interaction whatsoever so they get 'tough loved' into sleep)

I could get 9 months of prenatal care and a midwife-assisted birth at our local birthing center (complete with prenatal and postnatal massages) and postpartum homecare for that cost! And... how do you pay that much money to have someone come to your house to do what millions of parents do all the time?! (I am DEFINITELY not advocating it, but if you're going to sleep train your baby, why break the bank to do it?!) Sorry I got caught up in that part of your post, I am just

at the whole thing!

ITU what you said about needing GCM in your life.

I am definitely a better wife and mother since I found GCM.

Vicki_T · 05-06-2012, 08:42 AM

. I agree - this is such a helpful place to be

WildFlower · 05-06-2012, 08:49 AM

I was just going to post a thread asking for encouragement. I have been feeling so discouraged lately and like I just don't "fit in" with ANYone in real life. It is just so hard. I think part of it is my DD's age and I am getting to the point where I am just DONE night nursing but she's so not ready to be done. I can see SO many ways in which I parent differently and begin to feel weird about it and guilty like I need to defend why I am doing things this way. It makes it worse that I am a major introvert and have always felt like I didn't fit in, so parenting differently doesnt' help that any. The only place I feel like I belong is GCM. I really wish I could find find a big sister best friend GCM kind of person in-real life that I could talk to sometimes.

Mommainrwanda · 05-06-2012, 10:37 AM

It's nice to have a place where you don't have to worry about being attacked.

As a bonus, when you hang out here you know you're going to learn new cool things.

Stiina · 05-06-2012, 11:06 AM

lalaithnil · 05-06-2012, 11:25 AM

I feel the same way.

I'm SUCH a weirdo IRL and in my FOO. There's just no one like me around, except DH. It's hard. I wish GCM was the town we all lived in.

jujubnme · 05-06-2012, 11:51 AM

Glad you're back. I just yesterday saw a reply of yours in an older thread and thought to myself that I hadn't seen you around lately.

cmljll · 05-06-2012, 12:45 PM

I feel much the same...

frostymm · 05-06-2012, 10:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by WildFlower

I can see SO many ways in which I parent differently and begin to feel weird about it and guilty like I need to defend why I am doing things this way. It makes it worse that I am a major introvert and have always felt like I didn't fit in, so parenting differently doesnt' help that any. The only place I feel like I belong is GCM. I really wish I could find find a big sister best friend GCM kind of person in-real life that I could talk to sometimes.

You have taken the words out of my mouth!! I am so glad to have found a GCM, a place where other Christian mums "get" the way I parent

JenniferJuniper · 05-09-2012, 07:49 AM

I find this place a refuge from so many discouraging people and child-trainers.
Like you, I really appreciate this place as well!

Peace,
-Jenny

05-06-2012, 04:52 AM	#1
Amahoro Rose Bouquet Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Australia Posts: 874	I need GCM so much in my life I sometimes lose time to read through GCM, because it's just so big and each day there's like 20+ pages of new threads to read. So I leave it alone and only get back once a week or something. But after a day of being the lone voice advocating gentle practices when it comes to sleep; speaking out against a woman who charges $3600 for sleep training babies 6 months old and over (3 days in your house, no eye contact, no cuddles, no comfort, no interaction whatsoever so they get 'tough loved' into sleep); being told I need to have a 'bad' sleeper so I know what a load of you-know-what my gentle ideas are (not that they have a single clue about how my child's sleep has been lately!); I was just so worn down and feeling like I was the only person with these beliefs on parenting and children. Coming back to GCM has made me feel normal once more. People understand my perspective and feel the same way. People can see the risks of sleep training like that and don't think it's 'the latest way to make mums feel guilty', etc etc. I just needed to be back here with my 'tribe'; where I'm the normal one again. I've felt so alone and like a 'freak' all day. Thank you for all you do here, ladies - it gives me a chance to recharge into the parent I want to be and get the support I need. __________________ Breastfeeding, baby wearing, gentle Aussie mum INTJ My heart & soul lie with the women of Rwanda

05-06-2012, 08:42 AM	#3
Vicki_T Rose Trellis Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: UK Posts: 2,248	Re: I need GCM so much in my life . I agree - this is such a helpful place to be

05-06-2012, 08:49 AM	#4
WildFlower Rose Trellis Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 3,274	Re: I need GCM so much in my life I was just going to post a thread asking for encouragement. I have been feeling so discouraged lately and like I just don't "fit in" with ANYone in real life. It is just so hard. I think part of it is my DD's age and I am getting to the point where I am just DONE night nursing but she's so not ready to be done. I can see SO many ways in which I parent differently and begin to feel weird about it and guilty like I need to defend why I am doing things this way. It makes it worse that I am a major introvert and have always felt like I didn't fit in, so parenting differently doesnt' help that any. The only place I feel like I belong is GCM. I really wish I could find find a big sister best friend GCM kind of person in-real life that I could talk to sometimes. __________________ mama to my little Sweetpea born 9-17-2010 Married to my DH since June 2004

05-06-2012, 10:37 AM	#5
Mommainrwanda Rose Trellis New country - same username Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: State-side Posts: 2,400	Re: I need GCM so much in my life It's nice to have a place where you don't have to worry about being attacked. As a bonus, when you hang out here you know you're going to learn new cool things. __________________ Mzungu Momma celebrating the rhythms of rich simplicity in individuals, art, nature and community by: -Encouraging wonder -Showing grace -Undercommitting -Believing in the restoration of all things The Urchin is 2! The Chiton is new! Our adventure blog: Delving for a Rhapsody

05-06-2012, 11:06 AM	#6
Stiina Rose Garden Watch out! I'm exuberant! Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Rural Saskatchewan, Canada Posts: 6,917	Re: I need GCM so much in my life __________________ Holistically raising kids and cows with my Lunatic Rancher husband Broth-brewing, kefir-pushing mama to: little Type 2 cowboy Pip (3) - "shoo we go fencin?" and ECing little dinosaur girl Pop (1) - "blub dub ra GUB!" Me: Type 3/1 and ESTJ (Te/Si/Ne/Fi) DH: Type 2/4 and ISFP (Fi/Se/Ni/Te)...or ISTP? (Ti/Ne/Si/Fe) Standing for our sweet GCMs leaving abuse behind

05-06-2012, 11:25 AM	#7
lalaithnil Rose Trellis Better every day. . . Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Over the river and through the woods Posts: 2,466	Re: I need GCM so much in my life I feel the same way. I'm SUCH a weirdo IRL and in my FOO. There's just no one like me around, except DH. It's hard. I wish GCM was the town we all lived in. __________________ Kelly - T1/ISFP (FB-Friend me!); Wife to Niel the PyroKing, 6/14/03; Breast Feeding, Baby-Wearing, Attached Mama to Isabellamy brilliant, spirited, beautiful goofball 1/22/10; and Sophia my sweet, gorgeous, 10.5lb natural VBAC miracle 2/4/13

05-06-2012, 11:51 AM	#8
jujubnme Rose Garden Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness. (James 3:18) Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 5,115	Re: I need GCM so much in my life Glad you're back. I just yesterday saw a reply of yours in an older thread and thought to myself that I hadn't seen you around lately. __________________ ANDREA wife to my awesome dh since 8/2000 - mom to my sweet jujube ds since 9/2001 all INFPs, living in harmonious chaos. GLORY be to God for dappled things--- ... All things counter, original, spare, strange; Whatever is fickle, freckled (who knows how?) With swift, slow; sweet, sour; adazzle, dim; He fathers-forth whose beauty is past change: Praise him. GERARD MANLY HOPKINS

05-06-2012, 12:45 PM	#9
cmljll Rose Garden Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: South Louisiana Posts: 4,980	Re: I need GCM so much in my life I feel much the same... __________________ Connie INFP's are a FiNe SiTe to behold! DYT 1/2 Wife to Jesse (October '96) Mommy to Ethan (July '07) and Gabriel (December '09) Follow my journey to a healthier me! http://cmlhealth.blogspot.com/ Parenting blog http://christian-ap-momma.blogspot.com/

05-09-2012, 07:49 AM	#11
JenniferJuniper Rose Bouquet Crimson and Clover, Over and Over Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Canada Posts: 538	Re: I need GCM so much in my life I find this place a refuge from so many discouraging people and child-trainers. Like you, I really appreciate this place as well! Peace, -Jenny __________________ "The most precious jewels you'll ever have around your neck are the arms of your children." Wife to the Frenchman, Mama to my Miss E (1 year) Eco-friendly, baby-wearing, yoga-doing, belly-dancing, line-drying, one-car owning, extended breast-feeding, cloth-diapering, small-town hippie, happy-complimentarian and ESFJ PM me to connect with other Complementarian/WoS ladies! Blog: "Small Town Hippies"

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